If you had kids, how would you discipline them?

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What do you believe is the right course of action?

northerngal · Accepted Answer

I think the key is to be consistent... and never make a threat you will not follow through on. Then when you do decide to take action your kids will know you are not bluffing. When they are young a time out can be a powerful thing... increase the time out based on their age. Removal of privileges is also effective. The punishment must also fit the crime. Something serious requires a serious punishment. Its mostly common sense... and once you know your child's Achilles heel you can really hold them to account. For example if your teen loves their phone that is a privilege they will want to maintain... use that knowlege to your advantage. But you must also explain why there is punishment sometimes... random punishment without explanation will not be effective in teaching a child self control.

Jessikaah91 · Accepted Answer

My 18 month old tantrums like crazy, got terrible twos early but she doesn't understand timeouts it's quite difficult to discipline her at this point.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I wasn't spanked at all as a kid other than on one occasion where my dad lost it and that was more of a beating than a spanking.

Even though I was raised without it and would love to be my kids friends as much as their parents, I also believe firm discipline is sometimes necessary. They can't be kicking and screaming and being obnoxious in public places. I've seen kids like that and wondered why the parents just look at them and do nothing while everyone is thinking "Control your kid!" If they do act out like that then I'd give them a firm spank. Not to scar them or "traumatize" them like people say nowadays, but just to show them they can't act out like that. I was always a quiet and calm kid when I was younger and that's why nothing ever happened to me.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I already guide them... I give them knowledge, information, I inspire their own critical thinking, make them use it

and I am there to guide them, not to "discipline" them, I am there to listen, to discuss and to explain lessons learned too

lead them with the example as well, a genuine one... as I always tell them, everyone, including me... can be an example for both what to do, and what not to do... and it is not about just for them to do as you say, but to see and understand the consequences of our own actions

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Well I wouldn't hit them! I mean, maybe when they are toddlers, a light tap on the hand with a stern “no” because they lack the language or reasoning skills to “talk to them”. I believe in positive reinforcement, vs. negative enforcement. Children need discipline and structure. Structure makes children feel safe, without it they become loud rambunctious undisciplined little shits! That’s how my parents raised us, if we did good, and behaved well, we got all kinds of treats. If we screwed around, were too noisy (after we’d been told to be quiet), or got bad grades, then we did not get treats. Not that we always got treats, but if we were going somewhere and mom or dad said “be on your best behavior” we knew what that meant… If we were good we’d get a treat, if we were not, we would not! It was that simple, and it really worked. I think I’ll try that method!

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IslaTheWitch · Answer

I wouldn't... they are human beings, intelligent and able to learn...

raising kids is not about discipline, it's about consistency, understanding, unconditional love, and support... it's about seeing the world through their eyes, learning their perspective and helping them to notice that there are more perspectives...

Alli112 · Answer

Focus on consistency, communication, and positive reinforcement. You can't expect a little kid to understand or remember just because you said something once. I do not believe in corporal punishment of any kind. My own parents, my father in particular, were more in favor of the idea of "discipline" and "respect" and I just remember being confused and frustrated as a kid. It really didn't work for me, so I doubt it would work for my children (were I to have them lol).

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I will tell them no and tell them why it is bad if they continue doing it they will be slapped. Simples.. I will not be doing what my sister did. My sister and her husband never hit her kid (tried the talking method with time outs) now that he is a teenager he cocks off and swears at both my sister and his dad, he literally has no fear, then people wonder why kids have no respect in this generation lol. They need proper discipline.

exitseven · Answer

I never hit my kids. I wanted to teach them non violence. I would take away some privilege or not let them to go to an event that they were looking forward to. It was a very tricky thing and sometimes it resulted in an unexpected outcome.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

It all depends on the situation but I don't agree with hitting them at all. But it would be things like time out more chores grounded no mobile or anything like that it would depend on what they did though I think these days kids play up for attention because they don't get any at all in my opinion..

MisterWack · Answer

Peacefully & calmly when applicable, then explain what they did was wrong and why it was wrong. Compassion and understanding comes before anger and yelling. That should be the way.

Agape93 · Answer

I set rules, you follow. If you act up I'm gonna hit you.

loveslongnails · Answer

Don't have to worry or think about it because I don't, won't and have no idea what I'd do.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Time out in their bedroom, no way would I spank them because my late mom would beat me with anything she could get her hands on, it was horrible for me.

jahaims · Answer

I have children. I discipline in many different ways. It depends on the context of the situation.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Showing them the worst case scenario and best case scenario of all their actions. And explain why it’s better to make certain decisions, even if at face value it isn’t favorable

Stef12 · Answer

I think I'd teach them right and wrong and to see why what they did was wrong.

noohair · Answer

I always tallked to my daughter as if she was an adult. No yelling, just reason.

Anonymous · Answer

tell them the truth regardless of if they get their feelings hurt

Anonymous · Answer

Rather wide ranging question. What are your thoughts?

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Rewarding good behaviour.

msc545 · Answer

By speaking to them.

RavVid · Answer

A cattle prod turned down to the lowest setting.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Firm and fair.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Tasers... definitely a Taser

OddBeMe · Answer

I don’t think about unnecessary stressful things.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Restorative justice.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Time outs

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Time out in their bedroom, no way would I spank them because my late mom would beat me with anything she could get her hands on, it was horrible for me.

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Time out in their bedroom, no way would I spank them because my late mom would beat me with anything she could get her hands on, it was horrible for me.

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