How often do you and your friends argue?

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WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

Pretty much never. That’s kind of the good thing with dudes, there’s very little drama, haha. I think we also have extremely low emotional support usage for each other.

One of my good buddies’ dad just died. You do the obligatory “let me know if there’s anything I can do”, but I’m not going to go over there and talk about his feelings with him, haha. Kind of just gave a quick “I know how you feel, it was a tough blow when my mom died”, etc, but I don’t get deep with him.

I guess there’s one friend who will try to talk about problems or his perception of life, and I’ll listen and kick it with him a little, but I think emotional support just isn’t my forte. I’m a good times guy. For hire for weddings, but not for funerals, you know?

So, I think with the nature of our friendships being rooted in watching sports, fishing, enjoying weed lmao…it just doesn’t lend itself to arguments. There’s only one friend that ever gets mad at people (I blame him being Italian, lmao), and he just gets situationally mad at people or events, and he’ll throw a hissy fit, but I usually don’t get involved, and I don’t tend to piss him off, so it’s never directed at me.

I have to get really pissed to even raise a complaint, so I just don’t generate any drama. I only have huge outbursts when I play hockey, but those are more violent/attempts at violence, I’m not trying to verbally argue with anyone. It’s usually because there was incidental contact and the other guy gets pissy when I wasn’t. Rejection of my attempts at peace is the number one route to violence for me, lmao, I just lose my shit if I’m being cool and the other guy isn’t.

Verbally…. there’s nothing to really be gained in an argument. It’s either at a point where you’re getting rocked or it isn’t. Rocking somebody sends a message and prevents future trouble. Just arguing with them and leaving them unscathed doesn’t accomplish anything. And in the case of friends, if you snuff somebody, that’s usually the end of the friendship. Anything that doesn’t rise to that level of offense, I’ve got better shit to do than verbally spar about it. It’s kind of like “let’s either bang out or drop it”, and obvious in the case of friends it’s usually not that serious and you drop it. I don’t have a ton of in-person female friends these days, but I don’t put hands on women, so the only remaining option is “drop it.” What I look like arguing with a woman?😂

Basically, the only way to get argumentative behavior out of me is to push me over the threshold, but I only have “Off” and “Hi” when it comes to anger settings, there’s no “Med” or “Lo.” Arguing is for “Lo” and “Med” mad, and I’m just not wired to be in those emotional zones.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

I did loose multiple friends over Covid time , I couldn't understand people who simply " went along " with that sht , particularly in Australia. But normally its never..

I read your update , and 100% respect your point , you are busy enough without putting up with that.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

There was ONE flareup during COVID after decades of peace, which I chalked up to the fact that everyone was getting cagy at the time. Otherwise, while we all have open discussions to air out issues, we tend not to argue. I personally don't enjoy arguing in general and have walked away from folks who love to generate drama and trouble.

rosemilk · Accepted Answer

like never. i know one of them is very opinionated, so i keep all opinions to myself (can barely talk about anything, i know...) because i don't want them to start a fight. if it did, i'd just agree to disagree and move on. but them? absolutely not. their opinion is always correct and factual to them lol

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Never, I was always the one who shut down fights with my friends. So when I left town my friend group broke up which I thought was funny, since I was the only thing holding us all together. Though my friendships are always pretty shallow since I never would talk about anything private with them and wouldn't ever ask them for anything besides hanging out, since I don't trust people like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you can recover that relationship.

I don't have to many friends these days but I have one who I argued with a lot. He was always hot headed anger issues. About once a month we would have an argument if we spoke everyday. We are still friends but haven't spoken in months always been kinda on and off since we moved.

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

rarely Hey, in your profile picture, is that rhinestone, or is it just an effect/filter to make it look like you're wearing something rhinestoned

bobalife · Answer

Low key once. It does sucks and it’s heart breaking when friendship ends. Maybe give her some space and reach back out to apologize & grow in those areas to be a better friend.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Like once every couple of weeks, but it’s not like real arguing. We got in a fight once about whether or not bagels counted as bread because the dough was boiled in water.

Anonymous · Answer

hardly. never went any further than trash talking and never dismissing each other's personal issues. and none of this therapy bullshit. we stick together instead of letting someone else "fix" it

Account · Answer

Almost never. Very rarely and it is always respectful. Last time I had a heated argument with a friend I was in high school.

exitseven · Answer

Hardly ever these days. We dont see each other like we did.

DrPepper12 · Answer

can't even remember the last time but im also unfortunately passive aggressive and i hate that quality.  My family however... When dont we fight?

MrGSpotHer · Answer

A DV situation? I have because I won't agree with someone if they are wrong if I show them evidence too I just don't know why someone wants to argue when they are wrong, I think they just should expect it and move on I won't agree 😆

LazerBean · Answer

Extremely rare, next to never. We don't do stupid annoying things

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

We’ve been best friends since we were 15 and have never argued 🤷🏻‍♀️

katiesmuff · Answer

Very very seldom are there any harsh words between me and friends.

Simslover92 · Answer

Not like we used to. I think it's because we are older now and understand each other a lot better.

avery58 · Answer

Never cause I just keep to myself these days

Wild_princess · Answer

A lot but in the end , one if us compromise and things got good... but here's a thing every argument breaks a bond a little

strangeatcircleK · Answer

Thankfully not much. Disagreements yes, but arguments thankfully not as much. Maybe like once or twice a year

nawtee_me · Answer

We only argue when I tell them to talk less and listen more so I can tell them how to think…. lol

Lokiion · Answer

Almost never and if we do it’s resolved In about 2 minutes

12karen · Answer

Not so often, we always show love for each other 💖

clampfan101 · Answer

Never. We don’t have enough time to spend together. lol

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Argued 10 min ago. My side was the cowards commit suicide and she didn’t think they are cowards.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Most of our “arguments” are philosophical or political, but it’s all in good faith. I don’t think we’ve ever gotten in an actual heated argument.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

I avoid argument. I mean we are friend might as well agree on everything

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Almost never because of those who I argue with usually aren't my friends.

NathanDavis · Answer

not often enough...  let's argue

Theodora1983 · Answer

Never if one of us is in trouble the other is right next to.

dustybiker2 · Answer

I don't have friends like that..

Nikki1989 · Answer

Never.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Luckily not that often

HusamRocks · Answer

24/7 it's what keeping us together 😂

elizamichale1 · Answer

We do but it never gets out of hands

paledreams · Answer

Hardly ever - so rare

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Every now and then about little things :)

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I don't argue with my friends at all

woahhh152 · Answer

Almost never

eagle1951 · Answer

i have no friends

Evsisa · Answer

Never.

bowenw · Answer

Never

Karina_65 · Answer

Everyday😂

Danny_dan92 · Answer

We just banter

LiamJHayden · Answer

Never.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Never

jjj101010 · Answer

Never

Anonymous · Answer

A lot

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