Would you consider my dad to be a "creep"?

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My parents (m72, f55) had me in 88, and around that time, my mom would've been 19 and dad was 36. I remember one of my friends in high school telling me my dad sounded like a creep after she found out their ages, and a lot of people I know today say the same thing, just not as bluntly. What do you think?

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

My husband he is 47 and I'm 31 both adults. I don't see an issue. Honestly best relationship I've had guys my own age are mentally immature. I just never connected well with men my own age I did dated guys from my own age category in the best to be honest I felt more like their mother over correcting them over and over they couldn't even sustain a serious conversation without them goofing off or clowning around. I am just 20 years ahead of my own generation. With older people I able to handle really good conversations. With guys my age some how ended up in an awkward moment. Guys my own age treated me like trash and they're all mommies little sweet boy. No Absolutely not I wanted a real men not a men child. A men who is capable of making his own mind and choices instead of asking mommy for approval. I don't care what any says. As long as age is legal it's better for woma to date mature real men. Honestly Gen X men's were raised properly ad are more religious spiritual followed christian standards something you don't in millenail guys. That's my opinion.

Aubrey97 · Accepted Answer

Times really seem to have changed about this. My parents started dating in the 80's too when my dad was 23 and my mom was 16. They say no one really thought it was inappropriate at the time. Now people lose their minds over stuff like that. The gap wasn't so big, just that she wasn't 18 yet. They were consenting adults so nothing creepy I don't think but it's inevitable people nowadays are much stricter about that stuff.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Tell them to shut the f up. He’s your dad. Everything everyone does these days is offensive to someone. Can’t waste your life worrying about what others think. Your mom was an adult as was he. Not to mention things were different back than, today society is just one big shit hole. These people who throw out comments like that act as if their life is perfect, that they’ve never done nothing wrong. I’m not saying what your dad did was wrong. You get what I mean. People who tend to say things like that have no real argument as to why they to k this way other than it’s gross. Some may say she’s just a kid. But guess what that kid has full autonomy to vote, to join the military, to drive a car, etc, etc. Maybe we should raise the legal age to do all those things since they’re just kids. I mean damn if you can’t even make a decision on your own life, why would I want “kids” voting? Something that could affect all of us based on who wins. Her dating an older man isn’t going to affect me, or all these other people who think it’s wrong.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

He's your Dad, you should know better than anyone whether he's a creep or not... right?

Never rely on someone else, especially someone from outside your family to tell you how to feel about your family members, especially your parents.

My younger sister was told in the 7th Grade by her best friend's hippie-parents that my parents were "idiots" who "don't know what they're doing". My parents weren't perfect, but it was an inappropriate thing for them to say, and to comment on how my parents raised us.

My sister's best friend committed suicide about 4 years ago. Maybe her parents should have been more focused on their own family, their own daughter, and a little less on someone else's family? Trashing someone else's family, or parents is just not smart because outsiders rarely have all the facts. Just a little food for thought. You probably know your Dad better than anyone. He's your Dad, and you're the only who has enough 1st hand experience to know the truth.

Good, bad, or indifferent, blood is thicker than water.

ohsheeT · Answer

He's not a creep if your mom left him and he loved her they had you and they raised you and he was a father to you he's not a creep at all and forget what other people say it's not about them f****** jealous people anyway

Whatever people say who cares it's not about those other people and their opinions because of whatever they believe in is about your parents and what they believe in it's about you and what you believe in if you have good parents you have a good parents it has nothing to do with their ages..
I don't know who your dad is I don't know what he's all about I don't know how he treated you I don't know how he treated your mom but I know at one point that they loved each other and that's all that matters it's between those two and nobody else

oppai1 · Answer

My parents have a similar age gap and met around those ages and I never thought about it as being weird growing up, but I questioned it later in life. Ultimately I don't find it that weird, they were both adults. I think my mom was mature enough to know what she was getting into.

molonski2 · Answer

Ludicrous suggestion quite frankly , I didn't have quite that difference when my ( then ) wife was pregnant , but she was 19 when she first gave birth , but long after that I had some larger gaps than that of your father , he was a very young man at only 36 , that's absolutely nothing , and obviously your mother was highly attracted to him for numerous reasons.

Anonymous · Answer

i know a lot of people forget this, but 19 is still considered a teen. and your dad was a bit past his mid 30's... so yeah, personally, i would say so. also the fact that, i'm just assuming, they were dating for at least a year, maybe 2 years, before you, and well... that would have made her 17. so...

Britishguy93 · Answer

No it’s fine. There’s just stigma. One of my friends was 17 when she met her husband who was 32. Some people are more mature than others and if they’re together now and you’re alive because of their love for each other… there is all the proof you could wish for :)

HelpfulWoman · Answer

while it seems it was more socially acceptable, ABSOLUTELY the dad is creepy for his age

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Just because he's older, doesn't mean he's a creep. If he has been a responsible dad to you, and a good husband to your mom.. nothing of what they say matters.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Maybe at the time he had a lusty intention but I mean they stayed together, had a kid and raised the kid, at this point for them age is just a number cause they were compatible with each other

AviatorTom · Answer

No, age difference doesn't make him a creep. My mother, in her early 20s, married my father, 30 years older than her. Thry had a nice long 40-year marriage until he died.

Anonymous · Answer

What I get is they rushed into things and are idiots?
He could’ve met her when she was 18+ which in that case isn’t creepy.
I’d call him a creep though there isn’t enough information, age gap alone doesn’t mean anything to me.

dudegreat91 · Answer

Honestly, and I mean no offence, but yes. Its not about the age difference, but the fact that your mom was just 19. At that age women can be easily manipulated

getpucksin · Answer

It's pretty creepy to date somebody younger than your own child, but since they were both adults there is not much you can do

DrPepper12 · Answer

If their relationship was legal consensual and safe who give the f*** and tell the other people to shut the f******

Anonymous · Answer

No, my father is approaching 70 years old and my mother is in her 50s. He's not a creep, in my opinion. Recall that things were different back then.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You shouldn't be putting up with those kinds of insults directed at your dad.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Depends on how old your father was when he first clubbed your mother. If she were under eighteen, yes;eighteen and over, lucky lad !!!

LiamJHayden · Answer

Who adults choose to be with is no one else's business, but a lot of people a busybody know-it-alls who, frankly, should be avoided.

Twalli · Answer

Guys are generally going ti be attracted to younger women. If she agreed to date him, that's on her.

noohair · Answer

If two people find each other and both are over 18, screw what society says.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not getting any girl pregnant but I'm 52 and a 19 year old Starbucks barrista is throwing herself at me.

Apple1996 · Answer

Super beyond creepy

ariadneR · Answer

Not at all. It was a different time then.

OddBeMe · Answer

Eeesh…never a fan of teens dating older men.

Anonymous · Answer

No that horrible to say that

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