How to get your life together?

[Anonymous]

I’m ALL alone and i’m Lonely, jobless, bad grades and i don’t have money for training my passion (Thai boxing). I really feel lost because my sisters left me and I’m ALL alone only with a toxic mother that keeps sucking my energi and I don’t have another choice than to live with her. Somebody on this app that can help me? Some advice? I’m 20
And I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH MY LIFE😭😭😭

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, it really sounds like you've got a lot on your plate right now. I can't imagine how stressed and overwhelmed you must be feeling. It's totally normal to feel lost when you're going through so much all at once. But don't lose hope - things will get better as long as you keep working towards positive changes.

First off, try not to be too hard on yourself about the grades. School isn't for everyone and it's ok if it's not your thing. The most important thing is that you find something you're passionate about. You really love Thai boxing, right? Maybe see if any gyms in the area need an extra set of hands to help clean up or something, in exchange they could give you some discounted lessons. That could help you work towards your dream while also making some money on the side.

As for work, I'd start applying to any place hiring nearby. Even if it's just an entry level job for now, any income will help take some pressure off. In the meantime, see if there are any work from home options you could do, like customer service jobs where you chat with people online. That way you've got some flexibility.

And I know living with your mom is tough when things are strained between you guys. Is there a friend you could crash with sometimes to get a break? Spending less time in that toxic environment will do wonders for your mental health.

Please don't get too down on yourself - you're still so young and have your whole life ahead of you. Things may feel impossible now but if you just take it one step at a time, you'll start to see progress. Feel free to hit me up if you ever want to vent or need someone to listen. I know you've got this! Stay strong.

[Asker]

Oh thank u so much 🙏

[Oliverlogan263]

You're very welcome girl! I'm always down to help spread some encouragement. It really does seem like you're dealing with a lot right now between work, school and family issues. But please don't lose hope - things can definitely turn around.

A few extra tips that may help:

- See if your school offers any tutoring services to help boost your grades. Or try forming a little study group with classmates.

- Check if there are any state or community programs around you for job training opportunities. Sometimes they have discounted or free options.

- As for Thai boxing, Youtube some at-home workouts you can do in the meantime to stay sharp! Even just shadowboxing or doing kicks/punches to music will help.

- Maybe try writing in a journal too. It can feel good to vent your feelings on paper when you're stressed.

And if ever you just need to blow off steam, my Xbox Live is always open for some co-op games too! Staying busy and surrounding yourself with support is so important. You got mad strength to keep going - keep your head high mama! Feel free to hit me up anytime, we'll get through this.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You gotta first find what you want to do with your life and it's good to have other goals and other things youd like to achieve but you'll have to achieve them one at a time, unless they are achievable at a close distance from each other and being organized is a valid thing to assure you have to reach your goals.

[Anonymous]

It’s always so laughably entitled when a grown woman living under their parents roof, being cared for by them, have the nerve to act like they’re just so horrible and you have no choice but to stay lol. You’re lazy, don’t wanna work hard to change your situation so you whine and moan like a helpless child. Grow up, look around. You are lucky as shit your mom didn’t kick you out at 18 or demand you get a job, whatever job, and move out if she were really so bad. There’s literal kids in tent homes on skid row and you’re ungrateful self sits here crying. Comfy in your room on your paid for phone and paid for internet. But life is so unfair!🙄

[Anonymous]

These are on YouTube for free sometimes, there's Part 1 Ultimate Edge day 1-3, Part 2 Personal Power day 1-7 and Part 3 Get the Edge day 1-7, a total of 17 videos.

There's also a workbook at https://www.wellbeingwithease.com/support-files/ultimate-edge-journal.pdf

This will help you get your life together in any career you want.

[hanabunny]

Maybe you could focus on looking for a job so you have enough money for your passion?

[Asker]

I have looken for a job online bit i have not gotten inte yet, i want to visit personally and hand in my resume but I’m too shy

[jahaims]

Get a job