Is my mom reaction normal or toxic and dysfunctional?

[Anonymous]

So I decided to move because my old neighbor who had her lease terminated and was facing eviction because of the hell she's caused never got evicted! Management is so fucking shitty for that! I'm the second neighbor to complain on her for the harassment and excessive loud noises and fights with her boyfriend in her household.

So she didn't get the fuck out and I left! I found a new place. The new place is in a more urban area in comparison and a little run down but doable. I intend on cleaning everything over so me and my child could feel comfortable. It would only be for 1 year.

With a low credit score, other reasons and the fact I'm breaking my lease and had to find a new apartment to avoid renewing my lease has been hard enough! I couldn't find shit and time was ticking.

So my mom TODAY threatens to fight me, calls me a hoe and piece of shit after seeing the apartment and area. Calls everyone she knows talking badly about me. This was all over the apartment and area! I decided to disconnect myself from her. She wasn't even trying to be positive or supportive or thankful I got out of the toxic and miserable previous apartment.

I don't even know what to think, it's crazy. Her reaction was as if I called her a bitch or set her house on fire or something.

Thoughts?

She's mentally ill

She's toxic and mentally ill

Her reaction sounds dysfunctional

Her reaction was normal

Other please comment

[SueShe]

We need a little more context on your current apartment. Did she get involved in the apartment you moved out or did she perhaps even help you out with the rent or even, did she want to have you near her so that you could either support her or visit her. We do not know that but perhaps she was upset that you moved out altogether.

Now, her reaction is a little off the top and not really justified at all. Seeing that you move in a worse neighborhood as you lived in the past may have set her to disapprove of you moving into that new neighborhood.

Whatever her reason (s) might have been, calling you name simply because you moved into a less than perfect neighborhood is no reason for her behavior.

Give yourself some distance and hope for her apology for treating you like that.

[Asker]

She doesn't like the new place. That's what made her lash out. She hates the actual apartment building and neighborhood. I'm staying away from her.

[SueShe]

This is your best alternative, at least until things quiet down and she gives you an acceptable answer as to why she behaved the way she did and the least she can do is to apologize.

[rosemilk]

if your mother is toxic, please don't tell her where you moved to so you can avoid these confrontations in the future

[molonski2]

The entire thing sounds completely out of control , and headed for an horrendous outcome.

[Asker]

What do you mean by that? Can you explain?

[Anonymous]

Very dysfunctional.

[Asker]

That's what I thought. And then my step dad and aunt was on her side. She even lunged at me. Keep in mind I threatened to call cops on her if she hit me. This was all in front of my child.

[Avicenna]

She’s nuts

[Asker]

Yes! Then today she asks if she could babysit my kid. No apology or anything!