How are we failing in raising girls to forgive?

[Anonymous]

How are we failing in raising girls to forgive?

In life things happen and inevitably either by mistake or misunderstanding, or poor judgement people cross you and you cross them.

For most guys this can result in an angry argument or even a physical fight. But after that the next day the guys are fine and might even become great friends.

Stereo typically however for far too many if not most girls forgiveness isn't even an option for them. They tend to hold on to grudges and keep lists of past real or perceived "wrong" for life in bitterness. It comes up in any future conversation if not mention you know they are remembering it.

Ultimately for many of theses girls it can poisons all relationships as sooner or later someone is going to cross them and thereafter will never really be forgiven.

What are we doing wrong in raising theses women not to be able to forgive and forget?

[OtterMan68]

Christians must forgive. Christ commands us to,

Now forgive does not mean forget. You can forgive someone and also want nothing to do with that person ever agin.

[ManInChains]

We are failing them by telling them that they have nothing to forgive. That everything done to them should be met with resentment and vegence.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

... hmm

[Anonymous]

Schrodinger's Feminism 101 - rules for me and rules for thee

[Anonymous]

lol, grind that axe little boy.

[Asker]

This is an honest question, I have a little girl I want to raise right to forgive and forget.

[noohair]

The nature of the female beast.

[Asker]

How does that work for most of human history @noohair
when girls were more or less stuck with the same 20-400 people?

While there are biological reasons women might have a hard time with forgiveness, they had to have dealt with this for most of history.

[noohair]

Women never forget. That can be a curse.

[Asker]

@noohair
Not forgetting is not the same as not forgiving. If they don't learn to forgive they will inevitably be alienated from the community they require to survive. So it must be something we are doing culturally that failing to teach many women how to handle their memory approximately.