If we want honesty and integrity, why do adults force apologies and hugs from children?

[Shelly2002]

I find this so contradicting. We're a society where we demand more people to have values, to be decent humans with honesty and integrity. We're always preaching about how an apology only counts if it comes from the heart.

Yet, there are adults (mainly parents and teachers) that make the child give out an obvious insincere hug and apology. They end up doing it in a bad mood, do it fast just to get it over with or might not even look at the person in the eyes. A couple of the parents that are still into corporal punishment, even threaten the kid with a belt or other household implements if they don't apologize and hug the person. Sometimes the very person receiving the fake apology and hug might even find it super annoying since it lacks honesty and sincerity.

Why do adults do that if we're always preaching about honesty and integrity?

[Anonymous]

it's part of the forced brainwashing by mainstream society that is being put on the population

sometimes you're being forced to apologize for not being wrong but because someone else's feelings were hurt whether through speaking the truth or you simply existing

no one should have to feel guilty for their race, their gender or speaking the truth much less apologize for it

forcing kids to apologize when they're young and impressionable is a good way to control them thus why we have weak society currently comprising of feminized men and virtue signaling women

[Shelly2002]

yeah it's all about power and control over kids. If I were getting threatened with a spanking for not apologizing, off course I would apologize immediately. It still doesn't take away the fact that they're with a kid lying his/her way just to avoid getting in trouble again. That's the very opposite of teaching a person to have integrity and be honest.

[Opinion Owner]

kids tend to be more honest when we allow them to be honest even if their honesty is a brutal

and they're a lot smarter than people give them credit for

sure, it may be distasteful for a kid to "make fun" of a fat person wobbling down the street but at the same time, the kid isn't being dishonest that obesity is unhealthy and the fat person probably needs some self-reflection on their part. if he/she were more fit than fat, the kid wouldn't have to be brutally honest

now there are instances where some people are fat due to medical issues but that's when it's a good learning opportunity to teach the kid rather than scold them

[jahaims]

Most parents don't know how to parent and aren't even mature enough to function as a healthy adult.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Integrity includes accountability. Accountability includes acknowledging what you did wrong and apologizing for your transgressions. Children lack the ability to do this themselves, so the parents do it for them in an effort to teach them a lesson about integrity as well as the fact that their actions have consequences that they’re not always going to like.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s to demonstrate how to behave