How are parents not afraid to not spare their child’s feelings?

[Anonymous]

Our parents are honest people and will tell you the truth, even if it hurts our feelings. We got told to buck up because the real would doesn’t care about our feelings and they’re right. My dad especially isn’t afraid to be brutally blunt with us to our faces. Parents, how do you do it?

[ohsheeT]

You're 100% right there are some things that parents do for kids that they think is going to be good for them but they end up harming them even more because they don't allow them to learn things on their own to fill things on their own. The real world you have to be able to handle things it's not so much of the pain that you're going to feel is but it's how you deal with it and when you don't let kids deal with certain things you hold them back it's like giving them money all the time you're teaching them the wrong message they have to know what it's like to have to go out and work for it... The parent is hard because you have to be tough and around about way you have to be kind you have to be loving and caring but they have to be able to read your eyes listen to your voice short sentences let them absorb and pay attention to everything you do not preaching at them just by hearing you talk to somebody else even they do become who you Are no matter who you are. So if you battle if you make things work in your life that's who they will become too it's when things happen it's how you deal with it it's not that it happened that is the rough part it's how you deal with it

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Your parents sound very non-nurturing. My grandparents were like that, sitting my mon down at 5 years old to tell her santa, the Easter bunny, the tooth fairy, all weren’t real because she was “too old” at 5. They had a really shitty relationship with her and she cut them off from her life in her 20’s when she moved out. She didn’t reconnect with them until after I was born, and only on her terms, not theirs. They had a long talk about how poorly the treated her in her childhood, how they gave her everything but the love and comfort she wanted most, and they apologized and had a good cry about it together. They were more concerned with their image as parents rather than who they were as parents to their child. My mom is one of the rare cases where this worked out. I don’t expect that to be the case for you should you choose to confront this. There’s being “brutally honest” and then there’s just being cruel.

[CuriousHubby]

Parents should soften the blow some so kids learn to cope well not just get hurt and lash out as most kids and genz does online