I just realized that yesterday was the anniversary of my fathers death. I forgot all about it?

[exitseven]

My father was a WW2 veteran a small business owner and the child of Italian immigrants. He was far from perfect but he was an American hero. He never saw me become e successful in my career and never saw how awesome his grandchildren turned out. I would like to think he would have been proud of me. We had our differences but we patched things up before he died.

Yesterday was a beautiful fall day, just like the day of his funeral.

[midnightmoon05]

It’s okay. You can always be grateful like you are now with what he has done for our country and for the family. I’m sure he is aware of your success from above.

my dad pasted few days after he turned 80. He was sad and didn’t want to go. We reminded him how amazing he is and how well he raised us. As well as all that he left us to celebrate. Which are his 4 amazing grown kids and his 7 grandkids. Soon to be 9.
My dad was a kind hearted man, worked hard, provided fir us and was always very proud of me for some reason…

but he was not raised well. He had a lot of issues. most of the time my brother would tell him… the way he treated his father would be the way he treats him… however… towards the end… my brother was always there for my father. My brother and us are all aware how difficult our dad was… but we never took part and always was kind to him. He was our dad.

[exitseven]

thank you for sharing this.

[Caroline91]

I can never remember the exact date any of my lived ones died. I celebrate their birthdays every year. We have a lot of cake around here!

[OlderAndWiser]

My father was a miserably flawed human. I succeeded, in part, because of him, and in part, despite him. He was a serial cheater. He cheated on my mother from the early days if their marriage until they divorced 35 years later. He married a witch of a woman 8 days later and then started cheating on her (karma for her!) I learned more from his failures than from his successes: I have never once cheated on any girlfriend, long term relationship, or wife. I rarely remember the date of his death and I have not once visited his grave in the national cemetery in Bushnell.

I do remember his birthday but only because mine is January 14 and his was January 15. When he died, I was at peace with him but I did not feel any great affection for him. It is a peculiar aspect of my history.

[exitseven]

My father cheated as well. We were not on good terms for a few years but eventually I made some kind of peace with his choices and when I had kids of my own I wanted them to know their grandfather.
My father was about to retire and I was getting ready to become unemployed. He liked gardening so I had a customer who was the winner of the giant pumpkin contest and he gave me some seeds from the winning pumpkin and I was able to get a shell fish license from a customer that was the shellfish warden. We were going to grow a giant pumpkin and go clam digging. He died suddenly the day before he retired he died suddenly and we never got to do any of it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Everything happens for a reason but we often don't know what the reason is.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[WhiteSteve]

Sorry for your loss, man. My dad’s still hanging in but it’ll be tough on me when he goes, and losing my mom was gut-punch, so I expect similar. Sounds like your dad was a good man, and I’m sure he’d be proud of you and his grandkids.

My mom has been gone six years now, and I didn’t forget the anniversary last month, but I almost did. I think it just gets far enough removed that it becomes a little more routine, which leads to remembrance, but also can lead to slipping up and forgetting. But as long as we remember our loved and lost in general, mission accomplished, no matter the day👍

[nolabels]

I'm sorry to hear that it seems that your forgetting the anniversary of your father's passing is bothering you, and I'm sorry for your loss.

My dad passed away from cancer of the liver 54 years ago at age 42, when I was just 11 years old.
I still miss him terribly, all these years later.

My mom passed at age 98 about a year and a half ago.
That date, which has passed only one anniversary so far, is much less etched into my memory and soul, which makes perfect sense to me, in a way.

I can't say that I can remember ever not noting the anniversary of my dad's passing, but I'd say to go easy on yourself.
You're a human being, not a digital calendar equipped with a notification button.

Peace to you.

[ohsheeT]

. Energy never dies
And the way I see and I feel things I would say that he has seen you and who you become and he has seen his grandchildren

If you were to look back at the moment that you remembered about it.

What were you doing 5 minutes before you remembered what triggered that memory it could have been a certain word that he used to say it could have been a lot of things that made you remember it could have even been him.
Or even something you both had talked about before but I believe he had something to do with it probably
In one way or another
maybe

[Makeushiver]

I don't think it will bother him. Some time reflecting what you appreciated a out him might be a good annual tradition. Better yet more frequently. I lost my_Father when I was in elementary school and my Mother died of cancer when I was in middle school. Oddly, my life took a major upswing for realism innate never been able to rationally explain.

[AviatorTom]

My father passed away several years ago. Rather than celebrate his death, we celebrate his birthday, which is in August. Our family believes that is a more positive way of remembering him.

That you forgot about the anniversary of his death is good. It indicates that you've moved on, which is I'm sure what he wanted you to do.

I have a hard time remembering the date my father died, but I remember his birthday very easily. Same thing with my mother.

[exitseven]

He died on ten-four

[midnightmoon05]

Agree and think the same. We see it as a celebration.
I remember my belated dad’s birthday not his funeral.

[Simslover92]

So sorry for your loss. Your father's service is much appreciated.

[exitseven]

Thanks for that. I feel a little ashamed I forgot all about it

[Simslover92]

You shouldn't. It happens. I forgot about my aunt who was more like my sister's death day this year. It's just time seems to go by so fast. It's so easy to forget.

[Wiredone]

I always remember the days my parents died but I can never remember what year. I also remember my mom died 6 years after my dad.

[exitseven]

I have been getting ready for a lot of things ant I just forgot.

[Wiredone]

It happens to the best of us

[jamesgoldman]

My father forgot his father's 20th anniversary (it was also his birthday) last month

[exitseven]

Ivguess there is a lot of this going around. Thanks for that

[avery58]

It happens sometimes, that's normal. What matters is you respect his memory which seems like you're doing.

[DrPepper12]

Sounds like a helluva guy and he's left a considerable legacy in you! 🫡

[ProbablyClueless]

It sounds like he had a good and long life! I'm glad that you've been able to properly grieve his passing.

[LiamJHayden]

I think it depends upon how long ago it was and the circumstances. For me, I found him deceased in his bed and he was my only living relative, so I cannot forget.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

The dead are forgotten. It's common that it happens.

[loves2learn]

❤️❤️❤️

[exitseven]

thank you/

[Cubus]

Sorry for your loss

[Jmmmfi4]

IS THERE A QUESTION HERE

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[Dongie]

🙂🤔🫡