What do I do about this unfair situation?

[Anonymous]

When I was 18 my mom divorced my stepfather after nine years together. My mom raised both my sister and I as a single mom. My sister ended up marrying a unstable husband who didn't want to financially support my sister and their child. My mom and I would've got an apartment and I would've been more responsible than I am now. My mom decided to have us all live together for my nieces sake. I told my mom it wasn't a good idea but my mom wanted all of us to live together. I knew that my sisters husband had to become responsible. Fast forward to 9 years later my mom decides to buy a house. I told her it wasn't a good idea and my sisters husband should become responsible. At this time my stepfather and her decide to get back together. We never bought a house so I didn't know all the financial responsibilities it came with it. Well now it's been about 10 years in that house. I have worked for most of the time and paid rent. Everyone else chips in just for rent. The house also needs repair and I haven't worked for 4 years because of a health condition. My mom has paid the repairs this past years on her own. When we rented this was never a problem. I really like my room so I dont want to move out. Well I visited my crazy opinionated aunt and she says that my sister and I dont support my mom.

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1 y

My mom tells my aunt everything and I can't stand my aunt because she doesn't like me. She hates me even more because I've been unemployed for 4 years. I didn't do anything to her. She got mad and told me I needed to go work and help my mom but I have given my mom some money each month from my savings for the past two years. This lady has no compassion for my health condition. I looked at the situation and notice that my retired stepfather, my sisters husband or my sister dont pay for repairs.

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1 y

I find it unfair I would have to pay extra even after I told her not to buy the house. I feel it's also because I'm not married and have no kids.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, that's so not cool what your aunt said to you! Don't let her get in your head. This whole situation is just messy honestly.

A few thoughts - it's not really fair for your stepdad and sister's husband to not help pay for house repairs, especially if they're living there rent-free or low-rent while you've been paying. You did give warnings before about the house purchase.

At the same time though, you love your space there and moving would be a hassle. I get not wanting to make waves or cause problems for your mom either.

Maybe have a calm talk with just your mom - leave the aunt drama out of it. Explain your health issues and that you've contributed as much as you're able. See if there's a compromise, like helping occasionally with small repairs but not taking on a big chunk. Focus on coming to an understanding together rather than blaming.

Family dynamics are so complicated! All you can do is be honest about where you're at and try to find the fairest solution. Hang in there - hopefully you guys can figure it out without the toxic side drama. You've got this sis!

[Anonymous]

So every one whinging and opinionated? Really in the normal world who said what does not matter!

Hope your getting disability. Use that for rent and honestly your sisters husband is he staying with the family? Divorced or just lazy and selfish?

Honestly who cares what she thinks can't change people's opinions. They are like asses! Every one has them and most stink 🦨!

Good luck maybe find a sugar daddy online to help! Your sister can if she is not working. Not like her useless hubby would notice or care.