Have you ever lost someone close to you? How did you cope with it?

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I lost my grandma this June. I was really attached to her. She loved me and I love her too. Her last couple of years were spent with dementia, but she was always happy and wanting the best for everyone. She was really sweet , nice and caring. I still miss her a lot. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹idk how to cope with this✨

Staximus · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry about your grandma. I lost my mom 27 years ago when I was 20, grandma 15 years ago, and dad 6 years ago. You never really get over it, it just doesn't hurt so bad after a while but it never goes away. Like an old wound that never healed 100%, but the wound is in your mind, heart, and soul. Everybody grieves in their own way and in their own time. Sometimes you need to take a break to process it all, recharge, regroup, recover, etc. Just didn't let yourself sink down into the pits of dispair and drown in grief. Your grandma would want you to get up and keep moving forward, and make a good happy life for yourself. You are her blood, a part of her always lives on and moves forward within your body, mind, and spirit.

ChicoFromThe305 · Accepted Answer

Yep best friend, I just accepted it we knew what we were signing up for when involving ourselves in that lifestyle, I believe in an afterlife so there's that.

Anonymous · Answer

Lost my first boyfriend. He took care of me when I ran away from my abusive step father. I was 13 he was 17. We kind of became like a married couple and we'd stay at various places. One time we found an old room in an abandoned part of the subway until junkies forced us out, the best was squatting in somebody's house that was on holiday as they forget to turn their alarm on, another was on the floor of an abandoned factory. He eventually got a job when he turned 19 and we were able to rent a trailer. He wanted to wait until I was 17 so he could legally marry me and join the army. Anyway someone tipped social services off and the police took me into care. While I was in the care home my boyfriend was murdered. His body was found in the dirty river 2 weeks later, I couldn't even go to the funeral. When I turn 16 I got sent to a creepy foster family, the father was weird and my foster brother was always creeping. So I ran away again in the first month but this time across states by hitch hiking with truck drivers which was OK because they have a bed in the truck I could sleep in and all I had to do was a few sexual favours. Anyway I reached as far as colarado and things took a turn, I got real sick and couldn't find any shelter or food and it was the winter. A nice man who's wife had left him took me in and said I could sleep in the garage for a while. He didn't proposition me and when he was giving me something to eat I looked around the house and it was a lovely home. The guy was real nice and kind, had a bit of a pot belly and was in his late 30s. I decided that I wanted to stay and made an arrangement that I would cool and clean his home for room and board and $100 per week. I grew to really like him and within a month I decided to seduce him and was a little temptress wearing a little towel coming out of the shower or walking around I'm nothing but a time shirt and thong, it didn't take much effort. When I turned 18 I got pregnant and he married me. We are both very happy.

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

Yes. Each loss is a little different.

I think the first thing is to not fight the pain or the feelings. If you just let yourself sob, it's OK. It hurts and is exhausting. You'll be tired afterward and will feel better. There is nothing shameful about sobbing or crying about a loss. Sometimes, it's hard for other people to witness, though. For example, a close relative might try to get you to stop because 1) it hurts them to see you broken up 2) it reminds them of their own pain, and 3) culturally, our society has no clue how to handle sorrow other than to stop the exhibition of it as soon as possible. It's OK to cry and it's good to share it.

The second is to remember that you need breaks sometimes. Keep in mind that everything will be harder and you will be more unreasonable and touchy right before your period. Plan some things around that time to be nice to yourself. A long walk, a soak in the tub, a good audiobook, rewatch a good show, maybe even a night away somewhere. Be quick to apologize, and forgive yourself for when you snap at people. It's the grief talking. Don't use it as an excuse, but as a reminder to take a step back and breathe.

I'd encourage you to talk about your grandma and look at photos with someone who you can cry with safely and who can hold space for you. It may not be a family member. It could be a mentor or friend. Doing this will be difficult at first, but it will get easier with time.

I wish you the best as you start your process. Take care of yourself, girl. :)

Lavandin · Answer

I'm sorry. I lost my grandfather in November last year. He was the first person in my family that I lost who was so close to me. He spent the last 1 month before he died in the hospital receiving treatment and I didn't see him for 1 month. I already missed him before he died but I always had a glimmer of hope that I would see him again. After he died, I didn't know what to do at first. My pain was great, but I was so shocked that I couldn't feel it. After a while, the feeling of longing increased much more and I started to see him in my dreams. I was dreaming and waking up crying. The longing and pain came later and increased. It is really painful to lose someone so close 😥😓😭

RageBabe · Answer

So many beloveds have passed away. I was six years old when I suffered my first loss. In a little amount of time, I have lost all of my grandparents on both sides. Two uncles, an aunt, a sibling, and a boyfriend. What do I do? I find some comfort in the knowledge that their spirits are with me because of my spirituality; I feel them around me. I can't fully accept the fact that I can't embrace them. I'll always be missing what might have been if they were still here. I'm sorry for the loss of your grandmother. May she rest peacefully.

exitseven · Answer

My best friend died almost a year ago. We have been friends since second grade. He moved away 4 years ago and I had planned on driving down to see him next March. He had cancer but he told me the treatments were working. I am still not believing this.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. How did I cope with it? I didn't. 23 years later and it still hurts. But you can't live in state of mourning for the rest of you life. It just becomes part of your new identity and you carry that around (presumably) forever. Because if it hasn't stopped hurting after 23 years I don't expect it's ever going to.

LiamJHayden · Answer

My paternal grandfather when I was four, but I barely remember him. My mom when I was 16. My dad when I was 19. The latter two were very hard. I cope with it by remembering the good and by holding onto a hope of eternity.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

My little brother he was 2 years younger than me, I was a jealous goof and bullied him a lot because I felt my parents loved him and not me. So having him die so young was hard to accept especially because I wasn't good to him. I probably am not really over it til this day but I try to let it go and think he is in a better place. Ever since he died I don't really have too much emotion when someone I know dies. I will cry one day then be over it the next..

Garud · Answer

I lost my father when I was 15. I was focused on managing my house, doing last rites, and consoling my family.
I never thought about it much. What happened happened.
Too much sadness creates hurdles in the next journey of the person who passed away, this is what I believe.
I take a deep breath think about happy moments and relax when someone near me passes away

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes for sure. making peace with it all, being thankful for what I had.

some are not so fortunate as to have a loving relative/parent/etc..

my worst regrets are ignoring the plight of others. this I work on so I can serve Christ in the moment.

DJB72 · Answer

I had a big family and we were close. My brother was killed in a road accident as a child, two grandparents to cancer, two to old age, my aunt in a fire, my dad to cancer and my wife a fortnight ago in her sleep.

How did I cope?

Badly. Every time. You don't develop a tolerance to losing people you love. Each hurts in a unique way and you learn to live with their absence. Hopefully.

Agape93 · Answer

Lost at least 3, 2 to covid and one to suicide. A 4th one might have killed herself, no idea. Haven't heard from her in almost a year

I honor their memories, drink and celebrate them, then wish them well on their journey to what comes next for em

goaded · Answer

That must be rough, at your age. My grandparents passed on when I was too young to understand, and my sister and parents within a couple of years of each other when I was about 30. I still miss them, but less over time, just the occasional memory of something silly or nice.

Time heals all wounds. (Except the ones that kill or maim you, I suppose.)

Time reduces all mental wounds.

Makeushiver · Answer

When I was in 6th grade my father died from a misdiagnosed heartnfailure. Two weeks later my mother discovered she had breast cancer and had 1 1/2 years left to live. I was an only child with no close relatives and was scared shit
tless

AviatorTom · Answer

I'm the last of my immediate family. Both parents and my older sister have died.

When each of them died, I grieved for a short time, then thought about what they would say to me... "Move on with life!" so I did.

Crimsyjo · Answer

Get to my age it's more than one or two...  It's sad but it's also just part of life. I guess it's harder if it's tragic and unexpected. Which I haven't experienced.

NathanDavis · Answer

yes... and only time, might make it easier but not better...  we do live though, for those still around (=

Raphaëlle · Answer

Lost my grandma last year and it hurt. It still feels strange that she's gone. You learn to live with it and just keep remembering the good memories.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, loss my grandma due to dementia, and she was so sweet and loved all of us grandchildren, she passed away Aug 9th 1998. She was age 85.

Fireguy17 · Answer

yeppers, many people. As you get older it happens more and more. Both parents, aunts, uncles, both sets of grandparents, classmates, inlaws, friends.

SunnyRS · Answer

Yes, my parents.
There is no trick for coping with it, just give yourself time and busy yourself with something else and slowly the pain will start to reduce it won't go away permanently but with time it will be easier to handle.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, several over the years. It is never easy.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Well my grandpa passed away when I was 15 and it was really hard I even missed school for three days so I could attend the funeral and burial

ohsheeT · Answer

Yes 5 months ago I lost my dad And 4 months ago I lost my mom

Ironco · Answer

It will get better with time, believe me. Just keep remembering the good times, and bring them up often.

Juxtapose · Answer

You let time pass and try not to think about it too much because even years later thinking about them will make you miss them. It sucks but that's how it is, I lost my grandmothers too.

Bricealan · Answer

Currently losing my only brother to Cancer, and don't know what I will do when he dies

Sonora81 · Answer

I am sorry to hear of your lose. I have lost my father and grandmother.

eagle1951 · Answer

yes, and with help from family and friends, and God

Jennz6 · Answer

💔 it’s awful

Miah06 · Answer

I have

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Yes, loss my grandma due to dementia, and she was so sweet and loved all of us grandchildren, she passed away Aug 9th 1998. She was age 85.

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