My friend gives me a hard time if I don’t text her back everyday and if I don’t message her all day long what should do?

[Anonymous]

[Abbycado]

Tell her you just don't have the time to text every time she sends one. I am sure you have a life and job or whatnot.

[Asker]

She went on a trip herself and she got mad I didn’t check in every night the expectations are a bit much my own partner doesn’t these expectations on me 😂 I feel like ending the friendship to be honest she’s the only one texting way too much

[Abbycado]

Yeah that is ridiculous. When I text a friend or even boyfriend, I just wait until they have time. We all have shit to do. I don't need an immediate response. She sounds like she has too much time on her hands.

[BarryLiverstone]

Reset expectations. Clearly your friend got used to that pattern and if your life has changed then let her know. When she then gives you a hard time, remind her why you have changed end communicate less frequently

[Asker]

I feel like ending the friendship because it hasn’t got better I feel like I’m continuously reassuring her everything is ok

[BarryLiverstone]

If that’s the case then depending on how long you have been friends it’s worth the effort talking to her and finding a resolution.

[Asker]

I gave her that chance and she just continues to text all day like she’s already forgotten about the boundary

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s abusive. If you already gave her a chance and she’s not respecting your boundaries then she’s ending the friendship based on her unhealthy actions

[Asker]

Way too much I just don’t need to check in everyday and I should go about my life without her sending messages “where are you?” “Why aren’t you texting?” “Is everything ok?” I felt uncomfortable tbh

[BarryLiverstone]

Been there done that. If ignoring her doesn’t work then you may need to block her. Unless she’s family or you feel the need to communicate, it’s better to chop off the dying branch than kill the whole tree

[Asker]

She is a cousin but lives in another country she’s well known in our family that she’s texts too much my uncle says block her

[BarryLiverstone]

You have your uncles support, then block her

[Asker]

She actually came over to my country and she said it was the hardest trip to plan because her aunties and many others on her side didn’t really text which I wonder why

[BarryLiverstone]

Now you know why. Those aunties could have given you a heads up

[BarryLiverstone]

Are you going to block her?

[Asker]

Yeah I think I will she will just come around again in a month or so texting me how I am then before you know it I’m back texting back and forth all day long

[BarryLiverstone]

Good decision. But im going to hold you accountable so when you fi block her let me know, ok?

[Asker]

Yes good decision we are better at a distance I honestly don’t think I would go back talking to her life is better without her and the stress she gave me over stupid text messages