If your (hypothethical) teenager alluded to wanting to hurt others out of anger, how would you handle the situation?

[Anonymous]

Tell him/her you will disown him/her if they ever do that, to scare/discourage them

Have an open conversation about what angers them and discuss healthy ways to cope with that anger

Take him/her to a Therapist and let the Therapist deal with it

Other / I want to see results

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Please explain why you chose what you chose, and why you didn't choose any of the other three options.

[molonski2]

Rational and detailed conversation , and guess what it actually works , tennagers are not stupid.

[Asker]

Would you use the first option at all?

[molonski2]

Absolutely never ever used that , nor would I , children do understand reason , they get out of control when they get rewarded for behavior that is incorrect.
So I'd speak to him/her about violence , and how only the uneducated try to use violence to get their way , and then work back to whatever the core issue is , and look at alternate strategies.

[molonski2]

First option would make the kid more violent , just like boys homes did and jails do
" The College of knowledge " , the kid will have underlying reasons for wanting to hurt.

[Asker]

Thank you for your input.

[molonski2]

Thanks , enjoy.

[katiesmuff]

With open conversation try and determine the problem and try and fix it.

[Asker]

Would you use the first option at all?

[katiesmuff]

Yes I think if we came to the conclusion our help wasn't working we would look for the next option which I think would be the professional

[Asker]

Third option is the professional (therapist). I am asking whether telling them you would disown him/her (first option in poll) would be something you would do.

[Asker]

Am I correct in my understanding that would you eventually use the first option (tell him/her you will disown them) if things did not improve?

[Nikki1989]

I would take it very seriously and seek professional help immediately.

[strateguy632]

2nd obviously

[Asker]

What are your thoughts on the first option? Would you threaten to disown / not talk to your (hypothetical) teenager anymore?

[strateguy632]

That would push them to hate me and not care. And follow through to prove independence.