What do normal people think of dramatized dysfunctional family person?

[Crazzyyworld]

I am really in a unique situation. I was traumatized when I was 4 because my parents threaten me dumping me in orphanage. I barely spoke at school. I had no friend. My language skill is very low. I don’t understand a lot of things on tv sometimes. I don’t know how to make conversation. I became schizophrenic when I was 20. I see many people here talking in some pattern making conversation but I have never learned it. I struggle with feeling of left out everywhere I go. Some people are friendly and they seem to understand but they don’t really help me or anything. I bet they feel some sympathy toward me cuz I see it in their eyes. I wonder how it feels to be normal. Do you have anyone like me around? Do you sympathize or help her/him? How can I improve my situation? Many people use me when they know me disabled. I am tired of it and I would rather be alone. They are crazy evil. Should I learn to hide? How much am I supposed to hide?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Depends on the kind of people they are, really.

I have some relatives like that - father and mother are absolutely neglectful and don't give a damn about their kids. Their kids are two different cans of worms - the son (19) is shy and a loner, but a nice person overall so my wife and I don't mind having him around with the rest of the kids. My wife even have him a summer job and he was a very good hardworking employee. The daughter (20) on the other hand is a menace and her attention-seeking lead to her getting arrested a couple of times.

I bailed her out because her parents wouldn't but when I noticed she wouldn't listen to my concerns and she basically only called me to ask for money/favors or to get her out of trouble I stopped picking her calls. My door is always open for the boy, but the daughter has abused out trust so many times I don't want anything to do with her anymore I'm sorry. Ironically enough she's a way worse version of her mother, whom she hates so much.

Our relationship with her parents is cordial but that's it. The husband is a bland nobody pussywhipped by the wife; the wife is a narcissistic wreck who pretty much contacts us to ask for money or favors, and more than once "joked" about leaving her husband and wanting to follow me to America. Eeeugh.

[Crazzyyworld]

I don’t make trouble. I was traumatized so early age. I lost ability to do anything at all

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's a really heavy situation you're dealing with, girl. I can't even imagine going through all that trauma and dysfunction growing up - that must have been so tough and really messed with how you developed. Hearing about the threats of the orphanage and not being able to make friends or have normal conversations sounds super isolating.

I'll be real, I don't know anyone in my life who's been through quite the same level of family dysfunction and mental health struggles that you've had. But I can definitely empathize with feeling left out and misunderstood, even if the details are different.

I think a lot of "normal" people would definitely feel some sympathy towards someone in your shoes. Seeing the struggles you've faced, it's hard not to feel for you, you know? But you're right that sympathy alone doesn't really help much - it can feel pretty empty if people don't actually try to understand or lend a hand.

As for improving your situation, I'd say focusing on building up your social skills and confidence is key. Maybe look into support groups or programs that can help you practice conversation and connecting with others in a safe, judgment-free environment. Slowly getting more comfortable opening up and relating to people could make a big difference.

And definitely don't feel like you have to hide or downplay what you've been through. Your experiences are a part of who you are, and the right people will see your value regardless. Though I get wanting to avoid being used or manipulated - that's super valid. Just focus on finding supportive connections, even if it takes time.

I know it's not easy, but try not to lose hope. You've already survived so much - that strength is something to be proud of. With the right help and support, I believe you can keep growing and improving your situation. Just take it one step at a time. You got this, girl!