Would I be wrong to move out on my adult kids?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, I raised my four kids by myself with no family. Their dad ended up on drugs and abusive, and going to prison. I have two left living with me my 21-year-old daughter and my 19-year-old son. My daughter works, but any slight inconvenience. She’ll quit her job and wait a couple months to get another one while I’m paying for everything when she is working she’ll pay something here or there to help me out a little bit. The 19-year-old keeps saying he’s trying and applying for jobs but no one is calling him back. He sits in his room playing video games and computer games all night and sleeps all day. They’re not into drugs they don’t do horrible things, but they’re taking advantage of me and I keep telling them it’s impacting me mentally. While raising my children, I’ve got a CDL license. I make very good money for myself.. While living in this house paying these high bills and rent, I can’t get ahead but if I were to move out I could have a great life. The problem is my kids, no matter how much I tell them I need them to get out on their own they don’t budge. I have been checking into apartments. I found one that I like and that is decent. Would I be horrible if I just move out on them and leave them no choice but be homeless or take care of themselves? My daughter also has a boyfriend that comes over and spends the night sometimes which I don’t mind because he doesn’t use any of our stuff. but the condition they have my house and I’m too embarrassed to have anyone come over. i’m constantly have to ask them to clean up after their self they eat my food and use my personal items. I’m about over it. I had a horrible childhood horrible parents so I feel guilty but at this point it’s driving me insane.

[White_Widow]

I wouldn't move out, but I would stop paying for everything. I would pick up their mess and put it in their rooms and tell them to clean up their shit thats been laying around the house. They are adults and its time they start acting like one. As long as they are living under my roof, my rules.

So they need to start paying a bit for their room and food.
They need to clean up around the house. ( I wouldn't care about their room tho as long as they rest of their stuff isn't laying around the house)
And I would remind them how good they have it and that if they would have their own place the costs would be much higher.
I would also remind them that they should show a bit more appreciation and if not they get kicked to the curb.

[seeyounexttuesday]

Seems dumb to ruin your relationship with your children. However, you can give them an ultimatum. They both need to find employment and pay their share of the rent and utilities. Otherwise, they must move out.

[Nikki1989]

No, they are adults.

[jahaims]

You raised them wrong

[Asker]

No, their absent dad did!!

[Wise4myage]

No, not at all, you have your life to live.