A year ago I met my current boyfriend. We have been dating for 10 months now and he makes me the happiest human being ever. We both turned 20 this year and just started to go to college. My boyfriend is a white guy and not religious at all (like me).
My family has a turkish background. They are very religious and though I have lots of freedom, some things are just a big no for them. Like dating, sleepovers etc. I have always loved my family and am very grateful to everything they did for me. I know they love me a lot and maybe that's why things are escalating now.
Last week I confided in my aunt and told her about my boyfriend. She has been like a mother to me and I felt bad for not telling her sooner. She looked almost disgusted and was so disappointed in me for having a boyfriend. Well, she kept telling my uncle or my grandma about it and now everyone knows. I didn't talk to any of them and isolsted myself for the past week.
My mum didn't tell my father the truth, she just told him that I wanted to get to know a white boy. He was so mad at me, screamed at me and said that he wouldn't consider me as his daughter anymore and that he would throw me out if I ever thought of something like that ever again. I honestly expected to get beaten up by him so I was relieved he was only yelling. I am angry at my whole family at the moment.
For 19 years I did as they expected me to. I didn't smoke, drink alcohol, go clubbing... I finished school and now go to the college they chose for me. Dating a white person is the first time I did something selifsh. I am shocked at how angry they got. I promised them I would focus on my studies and that obviously we don't plan on getting married right away. I have talked to them so many times already and no one wants to listen to what I have to say, meanwhile I am trying to be understanding. I want to move out so bad.
Any advice?
