Would you rather a man always want revenge or always be forgiving?

[Anonymous]

keep in mind he will also be forgiving when you or your child gets attacked / harmed

get revenge

be forgiving

[Screenwriter]

Revenge is NEVER a good idea and will usually get you run in with the police or other authorities... And revenge is a form of anger. Anger eats up the angry emotionally. If you stay in that mode, it only hurts YOU.

Forgiveness can only happen over time when someone realizes why an event has happened. No one can ALWAYS be forgiving, and certainly not immediately. One has to ARRIVE at forgiveness. This takes practice.

But forgiveness means you've left revenge and anger behind and have arrived at peace: the place of positivity, joy and life.

I'd want a man who always seeks peace. Not only for himself, but with those he interacts with, and in a general sense, for the world. These are pretty tall orders, but revenge is petty. The overarching issue is peace. And within peace forgiveness can be fostered.

[Asker]

If I'm referee of a sports game I always let people get their rage out. telling them no you can't get revenge is how you create a pressure cooker bomb

[Screenwriter]

Great policy! Especilly in sports where someone could get injured for life or even killed. Think of that poor guy who was hit in the chest and had a heart attack on the field>. He was 20 something. And that was simply during PLAY. Nobody was mad, seeking revenge. Revenge is dangerous.

[Asker]

and? who cares if it's dangerous? being born is dangerous. and yes I have heard many mentally unstable people claim being born is bad too

[Screenwriter]

OK, being born, in general, is NOT dangerous for 80% of people in USA.

It's not about the DANGER of revenge. It's about the negativity of it and how it poisons the life of the person SEEKING revenge. Life is a GREAT gift and can be a wonderful adventure. If you are mentally unstable, you are NOT going to give a great answer about being born and being here.

I'm glad every day I wake up and hope I can live well for the rest of my life. I do know people who've not had great parents and supportive relatives and good homes and have suffered outrageous hits in life. This colors some people's outlooks, but most humans are resilient. It's built in to our psyches. Best regards to you!

[Asker]

being born into this world is dangerous.. because nobody leaves alive.

[Danielle93]

How about reasonable? I wouldn't want someone that needs to get revenge every single time he gets hurt. That's actually weakness, not strength. However, I wouldn't want him to be too forgiving and even being friends with someone that just attacked me, esp if he's someone that loves me. I think neither extremes are good in life.

[Anonymous]

not gay but I if was a woman I'd prefer a vengeful guy over a forgiving guy and I'd just be on my best behavior

if some rapists raped my child, I want my man to make sure those rapists never see the light of day rather than dismiss it

[Abbycado]

You are having quite the internet meltdown today, aren't you?

That and acting like most cowardly anons do by removing opinions.

[Asker]

no no. I don't tolerate disrespect.