What Is The Best Way To Deal with a sister who is rude, and hurtful?

[coxoabean]

My sister has caused me a lot of hurt, and I feel like she never gets any consequences really for it. I feel like my parents don't do anything about it, even though she is so unkind. I always wanted to do music, and become a musician, song writer, and I would often practice piano, but then my sister started being really unkind and prideful by telling me how great she was at it, and how she could play it so much faster. I would mess up while playing, and she would just come along and start showing off.

Eventually it got to a point where it just hurt and I stopped playing or even pursuing that dream of music. Now, she plays, now my parents are building her a music studio and everything while I feel hurt thinking "this was my dream, and here she is being supported even though she treated me like trash". It does hurt a lot if I'm being honest, and I try to not let it bother me but it does. She will do her hair, get high heels, or whatever and walk around with a look and attitude like she's better then everyone. The way she looks at me like she thinks I'm just trash and she's so pretty, and she just I feel like she gets away with it. It hurts to feel bad because of my sister, the one who's supposed to be my best friend. She puts me down for the mistakes I make, acting like she's perfect because she hasn't made the same mistakes as me, yet she doesn't know what I've gone through.

She makes me feel bad because I'm just weaker, because I'm a girl and that's just how I am, and she likes to make fun of me for not being able to lift such heavy things. She rolls her eyes at me all the time, when I try to talk to her, she tells me "I'm busy" or just ignores me. When I mess up on something, she laughs at me, and I'm just done. There's a lot more, but that's some of it. What should I do? How should I learn to not care or deal with this? How do I learn to not let her behavior affect me?

[ohsheeT]

I have one of those.. for years I've had to deal with her. We have different fathers. I'm older.
And growing up. She was and us a very angry person. . if I was going through something she could not wait for me to fall. . And whatever it was that I was going through I would get through it and I still remained the same person..

And I think that she hated that that No matter what life dealt me. I could deal with it and would deal with it and make it through it

Our mother the same Biological.
Mother moved in with her.
Ten years ago. And four years ago she called me up Our mother.. And wanted me to come pick her up Long story short she didn't want to live there anymore She wanted me to find her a place to live. I could not do that because Now she had the alzheimer's dementia. I told her that she could live with me. I mean that's all I could do.

She agreed and it totally changed my life I was not ready for this but it's the last Eighteen months of her life she needed her daughter to be there To help her where I couldn't and even then My sister was very selfish toxic and would not help me And tried everything in her power to get my mom put in a home But I promised my mother that I would not ever do that

I bit my tongue so many times My sister would come over.
And start all her crap And in the last two weeks of my mother's life My sister came over two times right at the right times and I made her help me do What I have to do To take care of my mother.
I basically made my sister do it and around about way And she saw how hard it was. How difficult it was and she could not believe The things that I had to do and she found god She said probably a month before that.

And she fought me on everything The thing that changed everything Is I had to put my mom in the hospital Because she had a mild stroke. My son went there to visit he's A fireman paramedic And he asked my sister. What the fuck are you doing He tried to explain to her that everything That she's doing it so toxic And he wanted to know why and she couldn't explain it to him. I guess But that little talk changed her

And then to see what I had to go through every day Change the weather she looked at me

And what you didn't realize is that i've been the same person for the last past Fifty seventy years And the person that she thought that I was Didn't even exist So all that hatred was for nothing except for To start drama because she was angry in life

Sorry about your bad luck but you make your own choices

So since my mom died, she's tried to become a better person but down deep. She's still the same angry toxic person.

And I deal with it in the same way that I used to. I'm nice on myself. I try to help if I don't spend time around or I don't have to.

Because everything she does is a manipulation could bring Me down to her toxic self And I just won't go there. I don't allow her togo that far. And I know that this is something that she has to pay for Sunday. We all do, no matter what we do in life. Whether it's good or bad, we have to pay for it. One way or the other and I just know that it will be dealt with when that time comes. So I stay away from it because I don't want it to change who I am

[StevenMcGarrett]

You should try to learn ways not to talk to her anymore. Take steps to keep her out of your life.

[Nikki1989]

If the relationship is consistently toxic, it's okay to create distance for your well-being. Take control of the situation.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You could move out, for starters. Then go no contact with her. Block her on everything.

[WilliamPamer446]

I understand my big racist brother used to be mean

Ignore them, set boundary and gradually talk to ur family or trusted one who understands

[DishLady]

That's what the block button on your phone is for.

[coxoabean]

Well I live with her