My younger sister is rude and mean to me?

[Anonymous]

My younger sister is 18 i'm 23 and for the longest time she's been really mean to me. She acts embarrassed of me and then acts as if I'm stupid and she's smarter than me. When her friend is around she ignores me and they talk over me when I'm trying to join in our their conversation or talk to them. I have 0 friends and I'm a loner the only people I hang out with are my family. I think I'm a pretty nice person so I don't know why she acts mean to me. When her and her friend have problems she takes out her anger on me and acts all grouchy towards me. The other day she was talking to me and I was talking to her back and I had no clue she was mad at her friend and all of a sudden she was like ____ shhh and gave me some sort of a attitude as if she had a headache the next day I found out she was mad at her friend. I think they may be lesbians but who knows. I don't care if they care but they're really close. I've been trying to talk to her and her friend cause we're all in the front room and they're all talking over me. They even brought food from the store and didn't even offer me any. I felt awkward. They never offer their food and she always buys her stuff. well right now I was telling her something and she gave me this weird look like I was annoying her cause I was telling her about this site cause I wasn't sure if she knew how to use it or not. She told me to stop stalking them (on this website they are on) but I'm not. What do you think is wrong with her?

[peachblossomluck]

Your sister is acting up in an immature way because she is a teenager. This is the real problem though: YOUR behavior. You don't have boundaries and you aren't taking social cues. If you don't have any friends of your own, you need to find something else to do besides bug your younger sister. If she and this girl are intetested in each other in a love way, you are creating even more frustration for her. You wouldn't barge in on your parents if they were trying to make love, right? (I hope?) So leave your sister and this girl alone. Even if they are just friends leave them alone. You both are old enough to handle this like adults, give each other some space, and not tell on each other. If you don't learn to leave people alone when they are getting mad at you for pestering them, you are going to have serious problems in life. You are way too bored and need to find some things in life that are fun for you that have nothing to do with bugging your sister.

[aattran]

I like you. Your attitude and your profile picture.

[peachblossomluck]

@aattran Aw♡ Thank you:)

[rebecca224]

Nothing is necessarily wrong with her.. she's younger than you, not by a lot but your younger siblings like to have boundaries and space and feel independent. especially since she's at that point in her life where you really start to figure out who you are. it's not right because you two are family but it's most likely explanation why you're getting the icy shoulder. my sister used to hate for me to come home from being out with my friends to the house when her friend's were over. I know it was because she wanted to feel like she established her own set of friend's outside of me and the family. so I gave her her space but had a talk with her explaining that we are sister's and we have to have each other's back because one day we might be all we have to lean on. friends come and go !

[rebecca224]

tell her how you feel and stuff but don't rush her to give you answers, she'll take some time at some point to really think about what you're saying how she's made you feel

[OjosOscuros2]

She treats you that way because you let her get away with it. I can see why you annoy her, I mean you're over here complaining about her and thinking crazy thoughts, but it sounds like you don't even know your own sister very well. You should try confronting her more about her attitudes but also think about ways you can be more independent. Like stop worrying about what she thinks of you for starters. As a little sister myself, we often do think we're smarter, but that doesn't mean we can't respect you.

[MarkRet]

Why do you need your sister's approval anyway? Some people just don't get along. My wife and her sister have been on bad terms for decades. Time to just let it go, and hang out with somebody else. By the way, my wife's sister is kind of a pariah and joke in her extended family. We pretty much ignore her and let her be what she is.

[fueledbythc]

When you fight for other peoples approval, people will view you as a chump. Be more bold and aggressive. Take this as an opportunity to thicken your skin too.

[Paris13]

If you are still Living under the same Rough Roof... This can be Hard as Hell.
Try and talk it out. She may be jealous of you in some ways. This happens.
I don't live with my Younger sibling but lat Easter, after we all had a lovely dinner Out, she ended up "Disowning" all of Our Own family, and no One, hun, knows what it is About.
You still have a chance with your own Sis.
Good Luck. xx

[Paris13]

Thanks for the Like, Lovely. xx

[Indierebelle]

You can't choose your family but you can choose you friends. what I mean is she might want parts of her life private. Since you seem to be considered "just a sister" and not a friend she feels like you are intruding when you try to join her when she is with friends. This might just be her struggling to gain independence.
Try talking to her when she is alone and explain that you want to be her friend. If she doesn't want that you should try to meet people elsewhere. Seeing other people enjoying your company just might change her opinion of you

[suki248]

I dunno what he problem is besides going through the typical difficult teenage stage. Just let her know no matter how she treats you, you'll always he her big sister and she can always count on you if she ever needs to talk or needs help with anything. Try writing it as a note and putting it on her bed. Even if she continues to be rude and mean, just continue being kind without smothering her (give her some space). She'll grow out of it eventually. Though who knows how many years it will be.

[Hai_tis_E]

She's your sister. She's a teenager. Sisters are supposed to bicker. Plus you really shouldn't be trying to hang out with her and her friends. Go make some friends of your own.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your sister thinks she's better and is a spoiled brat. She'll grow out of it though hopefully because life isn't going to cater her every desire.

[SarcasticChick]

Try to focus on your sis less and be a bit more outgoing. Make friends and go out more. I wouldn't worry about it though. It doesn't sound that bad. She'll grow up eventually.

[Creative_M]

Best way to maker her answer is get your parents together and ask her all the above question, as when you will ask her alone then she will stay rude and won't ans

[rebecca224]

Feeling ambushed by her parents older sister won't give her answers when she already had that attitude. what teenager will appreciate being ambushed like it's a family intervention? especially when she thinks she's just trying to be independent. Best thing to do is be genuine with her and explain that they are family and that they should be able to lean on each other, etc.

[rebecca224]

her sister has an attitude as if everyone just wants to know her personal business or everyone wants to be involved in her life.. a sit down with 5.0 definitely will make the situation worse

[Creative_M]

If she was interested in talking she would not have been rude, for the younger kid there is different perception of her sis and she won't understand that now so its better she leaves her alone and forget about her. If she needs answer and can't forget it then she needs to get parents as the younger kid won't give a ear to the elder girl

[rebecca224]

I've literally been in this situation, and her younger sister already speaks with her friends about how annoyed she is by her older sister, that's why they all just ignore her when they go over. if she were to take your approach, her next topic of discussion would be how her older sister "told on her". that's bad advice for her to just forget about her since she obviously wants a relationship with her little sister. a one on one will start to remedy this delicate situation instead of just running to go tell on her little sister, that's like trying to force a relationship on the little sister. she has to think about her big sister's feelings/her big sister needs to be the one to tell her. with her parent's there it'll go in one ear out the other since the sister's problem already is she wants to feel independent from her family

[Anonymous]

She sounds like my little sis on a bad day. Which is most of the time...
You need to forget her and all of them and get yourself a separate life. Be cooler than them and don't be interested in anything they're doing.

[abundantlyrich]

Every family has an annoying sibling.. id just ignore him or her.

[ShaLa112]

Uhm, you're 23.. if you were my sister I'd get annoyed to.
I'm 23 and I try not to involve myself in my 18 year old sisters life. If she needs me I'll be there but it's a little weird trying to push yourself into their friendship.

[boochie0]

My sister is 16 and I can't stand her , and she doesn't tell you what to do you are older than her

[Anonymous]

Honestly, you need to snap out of it. You sound like the younger sister, not her.

[Anonymous]

I would hate my older sister too if she kept annoying me and my friends all the time instead of trying to live her own life

[Kawaiikitten_]

YOu don't need your sister's approval. Hang out with Mom instead

[Anonymous]

It's because she loves and looks up to you

[jakeofalltrades]

I think it is a little sibling thing

[Anonymous]

be mean to her