My twin brother shoved our father to the ground during an argument, why would a loving son do that?

[Anonymous]

I wasn't really present when it started. My mom and I had just arrived from our errands and happened to see the altercation of when he (my 20 year-old twin brother Brian) shoved my father to the ground with all his might. Our father literally lost his balance and during the fall, two legs of a small cedar table broke.

Ironically, he gets along with my mother, me and everyone else. It's just with our father he's been having screaming matches, been very rude but this was the first he ever got physical with him. My father doesn't want to speak with him at this moment, has thrown him out and he was heard crying in private. He admitted to us (in private) that he's now officially scared of my brother and how he can't get out of his mind the hateful, scary (in his own words my brother looked like an enraged demon) expression. My brother has recently grown 2 inches taller than our dad, weights a bit more than him, is stronger now and has been in Judo for 4 years.

According to my father, my brother started the whole argument, started throwing tantrums, screaming, then was coming towards him. My dad was like ''what are you doing, Brian stop, stope'' and it happened. Why would a loving son do that? When it was over, my father opened the door and told him to get out and closed it. My father is now thinking of filing charges.

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He used his might, strength and skills to assault my father.

[Anonymous]

No idea.. Here is the rub though. I've done similar. My dad when I was 17 felt the need to put his hands on me, he actually swung and threw a punch at me. I basically returned his violence 100 fold. After I was done with him he was paralyzed from the waist down, and had to have his jaw reconstructed and wired shut. I have no remorse for this either. I am a non violent person, until someone visits violence on me, when that happens I defend my self with lethal force if necessary. The reason he hit me by the way was because I confronted him for beating my mom. I tried to be an adult and verbalize it with him, but instead of being rational he hit me, so I returned his violence to him, and after I told him that if he ever touched my mom again I would end his life.

Recently he actually told me that he wished I killed him because he is still in a wheel chair.

[Opinion Owner]

In his case, if it was not self defense, then he has anger issues and needs to get help for it. And yes your dad should press charges.

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear what you've undergone. Yeah your case is totally different than my brother's. Your father was an abusive person and you were coming to your mother's defense. Men that beat up their wives are scumbags. Honestly I'm surprised you haven't disowned him. I would have if I were you.
My brother assaulted our father during an argument about how my brother was not contributing much in the house nor looking for a new job after getting fired from the previous one (he got fired after coming late 3 times) and then suddenly he got defensive and blew up, started going into his rantings about how we're to blame for his latest break-up, how he hates him, etc. Then he got aggressive with our father.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I only have a small tie to him, I haven't spoken to him in 5 years. And the last time we spoke, when he told me he wishes I killed him, I told him that he would never know his daughter in law, his grandchildren, and when he dies he will be in an unmarked grave. Unfortunately my mom is still with him which means I have had to cut ties with her too. She took his side when I was protecting her.

As to your brother, he needs to grow up, or he is going to be handed a very bad path in life where he will be in and out of prison and homelessness. He needs to get therapy, spend time in jail, and man the fuck up.

This is going to sound stereotypical old guy, but I had a full time job when I was 15, graduated high school at 16. College at 20. And now am married and have been for a decade.. This is because my grandfather drilled into me that my job was to succeed or die.. That no one was going to rescue me. And I thank him for that. He was a marine.

[RageBabe]

He has anger issues that need to be addressed right away; hitting a parent or anybody is unacceptable behaviour, especially at his big age.

[Asker]

yeah my father is disappointed, shocked, hurt and sad. He recalls getting into normal argument with his parents when he was young but never ever got physical, never did what Brian did to him.

[RageBabe]

I’m sorry.

[RageBabe]

@Anonymous Thank you for the MHO! 💕

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Perfect people break too

[Danny_dan92]

Because they were having an argument

[Asker]

Our father is very disappointed, scared and sad though. He told us that as a teen and young man, while he got into a couple arguments with his father, he never did what Brian did, getting physical with either parents. That's what shocked him.

[Danny_dan92]

What was the argument about?

[Asker]

Brian getting defensive when confronted with the truth that he needs to help out more at home, to start looking for another job (he got fired from the previous one for coming late for the 3rd time) and basically contribute. Then my brother started the screaming match, suddenly saying we're all at fault for his latest break-up with his girlfriend, how he hates him, etc.

[PaleDale]

Some people are impulsive and defensive

[Asker]

My father is still shocked about it, hurt (emotionally) and sad.

[PaleDale]

Doesn't mean he hates your dad, some people react that way automatically

[jahaims]

You're dad is a bitch manipulator