A mother's discrimination?

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I will be 20 years old, I'm first child, what have I been doing until this age to deserve such disrespect and not being cared about? She does it more as I get older, she never wants me to get to a good place, she is not in favor of education, I am someone who does my best to pass the exam and has ridiculous ambition, instead he constantly says get a job with insurance and have your retirement, that is enough. I am 19 years old, I am taking the exam again this year, if I don't get a very good place, my insurance will be delayed, I should get a job. Up until now, I have been hesitant to ask my own family for money for a chocolate. I covered my book expenses with small jobs from home. Still, the psychological pressure she constantly puts on me is ruining me, it was always like this in primary school, middle school and high school.. whenever I was good, he said why not get better, you had to get this anyway. However, she has never been like this with my other siblings, when I witness it, it eats me up inside, she tells me not to do it, calms me down, she doesn't avoid them, I don't have any grudges or jealousy towards my siblings, I can't help but tolerate the injustice I experience. I am so tired that I believe he will change like a little child. I have no one left to trust or help me, I am struggling alone.

Because of her, I no longer have the strength to do anything for my real potential that I know. What makes me sad the most is that my potential, my talents are slipping away before my eyes. If I had grown up in a different family, I would have been very good

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I believe that your mother is jealous of you and that fact that you try to be independent and not to have to rely on her to achieve what you want to achieve.

It is also a way for your mother to punish you for her own shortcomings. She was probably also mistreated as a child and often, this mistreatment is being carried onto someone of the next generation, usually the child with the weakest character that does not fight back. You seem to be that person because you don't raise your voice or don't oppose or challenge her behavior.

At age 19, it is time that you show that she owes you respect and that she cannot treat you like a 5 year old child. It is all in your hands but you have to make decisions that will go against your own character and personality. This will happen throughout your life that you have to step up for your rights and not let people step all over you.

Shiprex · Accepted Answer

It sounds like your mother is not supporting you in your ambition to make something of yourself. It could be because she doesn't want to see others become successful and leave her. It's maybe a coping mechanism of neglect.

Do what makes you happy and try to ignore others holding you back

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