Why do my mother treat my child differently?

[Anonymous]

I have two amazing girls... one is 1 and the other is 2. My mom treats the 1 year old better. She seem like she don't want anything to do with the two year old... my mom gives her evil looks... gets annoyed with her and everytime my child tries to talk to her she either ignore her or give her short response. I don't want my kids over there if she's going to do that. My mom even treat my 6 year old niece better (Sister child). It just reminds me of how I was treated when I was young. My mom loved my sisters more... and still do. But im the one helping her and she still gives me these evil looks like she hate me sometimes. My two year old is a good child... she's respectful and very helpful.. she's sweet. So why is she being treated differently?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh mama, I'm so sorry you and your girls are going through this with grandma. It's just not right for her to play favorites like that, especially in a way that could hurt a child's feelings.

Some things grandmas just don't outgrow I guess, but that's no excuse to take her issues out on innocent babies who just want her love. Your two year old deserves so much better than dirty looks and short responses.

I wouldn't feel comfortable having the girls around her toxic energy either if she can't treat them both with kindness and respect. They pick up on that stuff, you know? No child should ever feel less-than in their own family.

Maybe try talking to mom, keepin it real but not accusatory. See if you can get to the root of why she singles out the older one. And if she can't check that behavior, you're right to set that boundary.

Your girls and their happiness have to come first. Maybe some space will show mom what she stands to lose. Stay strong mama - you're doing amazingly by them already. Their happiness is what matters most.

[Cutegirl06]

I'm sorry your mom treated you like that and now she's treating your daughter the same way. I would keep your kids away from her she doesn't sound like a very nice person.