What to make of this?

[Anonymous]

I have people around me that are sort of downplaying my issues. Imagine if youd lose a leg and I would tell you "well u got the other one". How to call that kind of this behavior?

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another analogy is imagine u were a taxi driver and I would not call your being stolen a big deal (fundamental to your money making) like wtf?

[beldath]

Unfortunately without an example, we can't help. Typically downplaying suggests a lot of people go through it and they expect you to get over it since it's common to them, or you're a drama queen with a history and even if there is something real, they'll just assume it's yet another thing you're going off about.

Neither is a good reason to downplay. I'm just throwing stuff out there.

Unfortunately people also don't understand stuff they haven't gone through themselves. With so many people crying wolf over the littlest things, it's hard to try and empathize anymore.

For example, I'd never really heard of vertigo outside of the word itself. It hit me hard one day, and had to miss work a few days. If I'd seen someone else going through what I did before I understood, I would have thought that's weird and moved on.

[Asker]

yes but for example i am not into kids but i wouldn't dismiss a pregnant lady fussing about the her pregnancy

[Asker]

i would understand why its a big deal for her and probably just say nothing

[SteveSmith1985]

That's somebody acting unsympathetic toward you. (not caring about what you're going through)

(lacking sympathy)

[Breanna83727]

That kind of behavior is called minimizing or invalidating. It happens when someone downplays or dismisses another person’s feelings or problems, making them seem less important than they actually are. In your example, saying “well, you got the other one” would dismiss the emotional impact of losing a leg, which can feel hurtful and belittling. It’s important for others to acknowledge and empathize with your struggles rather than trivialize them.

[In_Trance]

Did you actually lose a leg

[Asker]

no but comparably impactful events

[In_Trance]

Like what kind of events