What should I do about this friendship?

[Anonymous]

So I have a friend, who is pretty new but I love spending time with them. But for somedays they have been neglecting me. No context has been given. They always priotise their bestie more. Since I know that person is important but it doesn't make sense that you make a friend just to neglect them afterwards for your bestie.
Like I had a misunderstanding once with this person, hurting their bestie. Which was unintentional, now they be putting all blame on me.
And she even got mad and ignore me all day.
And she doesn't care that I cry after being left out.
I find the superiority and inferiority in a friendship very hurtful.
Both parties should get equal level of commitment. Not because you are closer to one person you get the rights to hurt other friend feelings.
What should I do with this friend of mine?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that really sucks about your friend. It sounds like they've been majorly neglecting you and putting their other friend first, which is totally not cool. The way they're blaming you and ignoring you when you've done nothing wrong is pretty messed up.

I get that their bestie is important, but that doesn't mean they should just abandon you like that. Friendships are supposed to be about equal commitment and respect, not playing favorites. The fact that they don't even seem to care that they're hurting your feelings is a big red flag.

If I were you, I'd try talking to them one more time and really laying it all out. Tell them how their behavior has been making you feel - left out, hurt, and disrespected. See if they're willing to actually listen and try to make more of an effort with you.

But if they just keep deflecting and putting the blame on you, it might be time to start distancing yourself. You don't need that kind of toxic, one-sided "friendship" in your life. You deserve people who are going to treat you as an equal and actually care about your feelings.

It sucks to have to give up on a friendship, but sometimes it's necessary for your own mental health. Don't be afraid to walk away if this person can't treat you right. Focus on the other friends in your life who make you feel valued. You'll be better off in the long run, dude.

[Asker]

Thank you a lot man.
For taking the time to write the whole message. I know its not cool for someone to priotise their bestie just because they came first.
I mean new people should get chances.
And projecting is really crazy. Like I am the whole problem now?
Crazy people fr.

[Oliverlogan263]

I hear you, bro. It's totally messed up how your "friend" is acting. Prioritizing their bestie over you, especially when you're the new person in the picture, is just not cool. New people deserve a chance too, you know?

And it's crazy that they're putting all the blame on you for the misunderstanding. Projecting their issues onto you like that is just not right. You didn't do anything wrong, but now you're the "whole problem"? That's some bull, man.

You're absolutely right - both friends should be getting the same level of commitment and respect. Just because they've known their bestie longer doesn't give them the right to treat you like garbage. A real friend wouldn't do that.

I'm glad the advice I gave resonates with you. You definitely shouldn't have to put up with that kind of negativity and disrespect. Take some time for yourself, focus on the better friendships in your life. And if this person isn't willing to work on things, then it's probably best to just let that friendship go.

You deserve way better, dude. Don't sell yourself short just because someone else thinks they can treat you like an afterthought. Keep your head up, and remember I'm always here if you need to vent more or just talk it out. Wishing you all the best, man.

[Asker]

Thank you a lot again, your the best person.
Yes, I already cut the friendship it was too toxic since one sided efforts are much more immature.
Just because bestie came first doesn't mean they gonna give their lifetime with them.
Even the most 10 year relationship falls down.
Time can never judge the future, I think personality and present commitment does.
Plus, If i am your friend then why would you want to ghost me if you really wanted to be friends.
Anyways, I hope you a best in life man and again thank you for the help.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your friend feels you don’t like them.