Me and my friend haven't talked for a month?

[Anonymous]

Me and him are online friends and we haven't messaged or interacted in over a month. I don't know what the problem is and I'm afraid to ask him about it. I think him are bored of me. What should I do? Should I just wait until he texts me?

[ManOnFire]

Just reach out and say "Hey, how are you doing?" See if he responds. Girls overthink this kind of stuff too much because they don't want to be the one to say anything for fear that it makes them look "desperate." If he's a friend then you shouldn't be thinking that way.

[Asker]

This happened once again and I fixed it and I don't even know what I did or what the problem was

[ManOnFire]

Then at this point don't bother saying anything anymore. Just let him reach out if he really cares.

[Asker]

does he do it?

[ManOnFire]

I don't know. You'll just have to wait and see, but don't wait around too long. Somebody who cares about you will reach out.

[Kaneki05]

He's probably thinking the same thing. Depends who messaged last in my head anyway. If you reach out and get no reply then you have your answer really.

[Anonymous]

My so called male friend hasn’t messaged me in a year or so. Men are strange creatures

[Asker]

for real. did u ask to him?

[Opinion Owner]

I didn’t ask I mean when you ask someone to dinner and they never get back to you and then later on you wish them a happy holiday and they leave you on read for over a month , ya start to assume that they don’t care

[Opinion Owner]

thanks for mho

[Abbycado]

Maybe he got busy? How well do you know him.

[Asker]

No, he is not busy. He finished his school and he is playing computer games at home all day during the summer vacation

[Kaneki05]

Well... Gaming does mean busy. As a gamer we can't message very well if we are gaming, and we do love just sitting down gaming without interacting with others for long periods.

But if you message him he should respond when he can.

[Asker]

@Kaneki05 Thanks but Has he been playing games for a month? Also he would always answer me while playing games. I would tell him we could talk later, but he wanted to talk to me and play games

[Kaneki05]

I mean I can't speak for everyone who games. But I do tend to lose track of time and days become weeks situation of not replying back.

And I don't see how that's possible. Unless he only plays passive games, it's pretty hard to text and game.
Seems like something he would tell you rather than the truth of it which was he was neglecting gaming to talk to you.

Think about it how can he text if he needs to be focused and pressing buttons on a game? Nvm if he plays online games where there is no pause?
And even in a single player game is he really gonna pause every 5secs to text? Seems annoying.

[Asker]

@Kaneki05 yes, I think so too and I think the same things but I don't know, he always called it "multitaks" I don't talk to anyone while playing games and I don't do it even if I want to, but he said he could do it. He used to apologize even if we didn't talk for a day or if he checked my messages a few minutes late, but now we don't even talk

[Shiprex]

The same message could be coming from him so the only way to find out is to ask.

[Asker]

What can I ask?

[Shiprex]

Your friend. Best to CALL them by voice at least leave a voice message wondering what is going on

[Asker]

I can't call. in English my accent isn't that good and calling would stress me out

[Shiprex]

I get that, maybe write an email and send that so the message and sense can be made clear. You can speak it in your own language to make it easier to put down in a message.

[Asker]

thank you a lot But what should I say?

[Shiprex]

Something like, "Hi there, long time no see (or hear) how are things?"
Now you can add more about your intention or desire for the development of something,
"Missed our chats and was hoping to catch up sometime" or give some update on things you used to talk about if you want to be less forward.

[In_Trance]

Move on

[Asker]

to wait?