I cry when I try to defend myself, how can this pass?

[red-lipstick-girl]

I can't defend myself on issues where I'm right, I'm crying. Many experts say that parents teach their children that no matter what their elders say, the child should be silent. I experienced this when I was a child. I tried to fix this situation but it doesn't work. My throat starts to hurt and my eyes fill with tears, but I can still talk a little.

[Shiprex]

Your emotional regulation is being overloaded. When you sense you're becoming overwhelmed with emotion, stop, close your eyes and BREATHE

https://www.youtube.com/embed/I3fM72HEbCA

Here is a way to help get you to learn that controlling your emotional response through breathing and there are other ways to help keep the emotions under control are with Mindfulness then you should be able to follow your own path to confident and sincere dialogue with others especially older people.

[Joshydavid25]

You're just not so confrontational, and don't like confrontation and probably don'tdo it a lot.. Because of that your emotional regulation in that area is not the best.. It'll take time but I guess looking into getting better emotional regulation with confronting someone will be a big help..

[HollyK21]

Probably because you don’t like confrontation, even when it’s not a confrontational topic it’s still uncomfortable. Especially if it’s defending yourself against people you’ve always been told to show nothing but respect even if they disrespect you, like your elders or family.

[Cutegirl06]

Defend yourself more often and maybe it will become second nature to you and eventually you won't cry anymore.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That's trauma. There's no definitive way of resolving that. But maybe acceptance like facing your fear instead of trying to avoid them. Slowly healing yourself and getting yours to it in the progress but that's definitely not easy. Perhaps you need to talk to someone you're comfortable with crying. Want to talk about it?

[nawtee_me]

When you have to go against the things you were taught is sometimes a hard thing to do. You know you are right but you know it goes against what your parents taught you to say something. Take your time and consider your wards and if you must then speak them. You can do it, I have faith in you….

[SotiCoto]

You have to teach yourself not to react like that.
The world won't be kind enough to stop subjecting you to strife, so it is up to you to learn how to adapt and cope with it.

[Grond21]

That sounds really awful. It sounds like you're completely unable to defend yourself. That your voice and your opinions and your feelings don't matter.

This is sounding like it's abuse.

[SamWinchester058]

My parents did this to me as well. It wasn't until adulthood that I learned to stand up and speak my mind. If you want them to respect you as an adult and if you want to respect yourself I'd say you need to find a way to work on this for yourself.

[Geo1970]

Think about the good stuff and the good people that are around you.


When you are feeling low and lack energy get in touch with your good friends Who you know will support you through thick and thin.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'll defend you now you have your very own 6'5 272 pound bodyguard to defend you!!! 😉

[MrChinaski]

I can hear that you are distressed. May I ask what the issue in front of you is right now?

[StevenMcGarrett]

I'm sorry to hear about that. Seek a councilor that can help you with that. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

It's ok, you don't like confrontation, I know how you feel.

[DangerouslyCute]

therapy can help...

[NathanDavis]

fight for your rights

[Dongie]

Work on it. You'll get it.