What do you do to keep yourself from crying when you don’t want to?

Question

I think of brick wall or rainbows and unicorns.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Why do you (or someone else) need “to keep yourself from crying when you don’t want to”?

Did the passing of Queen Elizabeth and the Windsor family’s dealing with grief (and “keeping a stiff upper lip”) in public lead to you asking this question?

The following article says a lot about stopping one’s self from crying, including…

https://www.thecut.com/2015/02/how-to-stop-yourself-from-crying.html https://www.thecut.com/2015/02/how-to-stop-yourself-from-crying.html

deep breathing exercises can help you ground yourself and take a step back from the first intense flash of emotion and any extreme reaction you want to avoid

Breathe in slowly…Hold your breath for a count of three…repeat a mantra, like “I am calm” or “I am relaxed.”

Getting some [physical or mental] distance from intense feelings can help you make sure you’re reacting to them in reasonable ways

distract yourself [in a healthy way] until you’re in a better place to deal with [your feelings]:

• taking a walk
• watching a funny video
• talking to a loved one
• spending a few minutes with your pet

Meditation can help you [because] you’re teaching yourself…to notice [your feelings] without judging yourself or attempting to change them or make them go away…Meditation helps you increase [your emotional] acceptance skills. It also offers other benefits, like helping you relax and get better sleep.

healthy ways to cope with stress include:

• getting enough sleep
• making time to talk (and laugh) with friends
• exercise
• spending time in nature
• making time for relaxation and hobbies

Talk to a therapist

ALSO:

Life coach Tony Robbins says…

https://www.tonyrobbins.com/ask-tony/cycle-of-meaning/

HOW TO CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS

Next time you’re faced with a situation that elicits strong feelings from you, pause to consider what meaning you’re going to attach to it.

1. TAKE A DEEP BREATH
[give yourself a moment to process what just happened]

2. FIND OUT WHAT YOU’RE FEELING

3. REPLACE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS…[and] focus on positive emotions

4. CHANNEL YOUR ENERGY…by participating in some sort of physical activity

5. EXPLORE YOUR EMOTIONS…Once you understand an emotion, it’s that much easier to control it

When you ask yourself, “How can I control my emotions?” what you’re really asking is, “How can I assign positive meaning to this event, instead of letting negative feelings linger?”

Blackmamba5061 · Accepted Answer

I'm really depressed all the time don't feel comfortable talking to my family about it and I lose myself in a book or do something painful to distract me. nothing like cutting mostly ill stub my tow or dig my fingernails into my palm or something. Haven't cried In 16 years. Probably not healthy but can't really say I would know what happiness feels like or family but it is what it is I just try to put a smile on my face and keep up the charade. Most of my emotions have been suppressed since I was little in foster care so I have to try and act normal whatever they means. Hope that helps don't recommend anything that is painful.

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

Go for the physical. It’s the same way they teach people not to have a panic attack. Grounding exercises. Brings you to the present. Feel the inside of your shoes with your toes, feel your clothes with your fingers. Nervous people keep objects (paperclips, stress ball, etc) in their pockets to hold in moments of tension. Brings you out of the emotional state.

Julie_TS · Accepted Answer

I can't seem to prevent it, i have to kinda just let it happen and then trybtonshort stop it as soon as possible.  #crybaby #emotionalmess

RolandCuthbert · Answer

I am listening to Captain Phillips speak right now. He is talking about that exact thing. He wanted to give up and start crying when the pirates climbed onboard. But he decided not to. He says we are all stronger than we know.

Sandeeppingping · Answer

I don't cry, no matter how tough it got, I locked myself in my room, eventually it automatically turned into anger and then to action (gym and mma) basically and that's it, if we're talking deaths then I believe I'll cry for my mom and my aunt, no anyone else if I'm to be honest, last time I cried was when I was 8 I think, when my dad died and that was it

AndrésC64 · Answer

I notice that when I'm about to cry that I'm "in my head", and probably not breathing normally. I'm probably holding all kinds of tension in my chest from not breathing. If I can notice that I'm in my head, and notice my breathing, or lack thereof, I can start to breathe normally and that helps relieve that tension.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I play a really sad song and cry it off so I can get it over with. Then I’m all better 😁

J2ohhhhh · Answer

I don't cry over nothingnesses, so I never hold back. I cry when we visit my grandma's graveyard and similar things.

Massageman · Answer

I think of one particular song my mother would play on the piano.

XXblack88 · Answer

I keep myself busy. When I'm busy I don't have time to think about it.

Pleaznhim4me · Answer

I think of when Biden pooped in front of the pope. Always works!!!

xJeremyx · Answer

I dont. I just force myself to hold it in. Until I get home, or somewhere safe. Then the waterworks can finally begin.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Change the subject or listen to upbeat music

Juxtapose · Answer

I get angry instead and focus that anger in action.

maximumpower · Answer

Imagine my ex riding away into the sunset in the back of a police car on her way to prison.

EaterPeter · Answer

Well when it is about something / someone matters most. Almost difficult to stop. Nothing works until I fall a sleep crying. Want to bundle up and die sleeping don't want to wake up alive next morning.

BLP11520 · Answer

I don't cry very often, but I have teared up often. Try to get away listen to music

Anonymous · Answer

I don't have any way to prevent it. What I hate is crying in public especially when she gets to me and I start thinking about her

rabbitzzz · Answer

Why would I not cry, it feels great.

Heolurt · Answer

I go out of my house, I can't seem to look sad or cry around people.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I try to do something I enjoy like with a movie or TV Show.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

Distracting myself by keeping myself busy.

Debbie14217 · Answer

i dont do that sorrt

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Think of something funny like Nickocado Avocado

exitseven · Answer

Think of something that really makes me angry.

JaxiCats · Answer

I can’t really anymore

AngelOfLight258 · Answer

I just imagine a serene place.

SayCheez03 · Answer

I dont cry often at all

Andres77 · Answer

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