How to stop crying, or stop feeling bad about crying?

[Anonymous]

Last week I ended up fully having a panic attack in front of my dad. Before he left, he warned me not to ever let that happen in front of my wife or daughter. That they'd not trust me or respect me if they found out.

I know that's not true—I've cried in front of my wife before, and she's never been a dick about it. But I've still not told her about this time. I still feel weak for letting it happen. I hate that I can't control it like I used to, and I worry that my wife will change her mind about it eventually.

Even if she doesn't, I lose respect for myself when it happens. I know I shouldn't, but it's not like I'm crying over a death. It's always something that happened a long time ago, or something I should be able to just handle and then it'll be over. I hate it, I feel like a child when it happens. I should be able to control it.

[TruthBeTold77]

Honestly don't stress it. We all have our times when we need to just cry it's perfectly fine. Everyone has their breaking points in life and it's not something to be ashamed of. You're human, we all are and we was made to feel and we shouldn't be expected to be anything but human. If you're hurting over past hurts then I think therapy may be something you should look into. Also instead of always trying to control it, maybe having a time to allow yourself to actually feel and go through everything you're feeling may help. Sorry I'm not the best at these situations so probably not the best at giving advice, but I do truly hope you start to feel better soon and I really do think therapy would help you. Please don't feel ashamed you're just human like everyone else. ❤️

[strawberrybaby3]

So just because you’re a man, you’re not allowed to feel pain? I don’t see this as a weakness, especially if you’re getting emotional over things that really upset you in the past. You have every right to. And if your wife really loves you I don’t think this is something that would bother her, and if anything, she should be helping you through times like this

[HateyouxD]

I don't like you feeling bad have you tried therapy or getting on anti depressants? Crying isn't too bad don't be so hard on yourself

[Staximus]

Don't just tell somebody to get on antidepressants you quack

[HateyouxD]

@Staximus my bad. I figure if what he's doing isn't helping maybe some medicine will

[HateyouxD]

At least therapy

[Staximus]

I'm sorry I shouldn't have called you a quack. Panic attacks are usually caused by stress, PTSD or both, or OCD

[ShesRad80]

you are human we cry nothing to be ashamed about

[Staximus]

What caused the panic attack

[Asker]

We were alone in the house and forgot that our wives had taken the kid with them when they went out for a bit, so we thought she was suppose to be in the house with us and couldn't find her. I know it's a reasonable reaction to thinking your kid is missing, but I could've just called my wife and it would've been figured out. And if she had actually been missing, panicking would have just made finding her take longer.

[Staximus]

Relax dude, anybody is going to freak out if they can't find their kid.

[shades777]

stoo drinking water , that should do the trick