How do you cope with sadness and the fear of losing someone close, such as a beloved family member?

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BadApple69 · Accepted Answer

Death is not the end. I personally believe in God but you don’t have to believe to know that death is just another stage of existence.
Einstein stated that energy cannot be created or destroyed, only transformed into another form.

We as people are driven by electrical energy. This energy according to Einstein cannot be destroyed.
Bill Bryson in a book he wrote, said that if we could take tweezers and pick ourselves apart one atom at a time we’d end up with a pile of atoms that once was us, but was never alive. That also is true. So where does life come from?
Is it that electrical energy? That energy that Einstein claims can’t be destroyed?
Life isn’t over at death, it’s just transformed. In our hearts and our minds those we lost are never gone. We love them even though they are not here and think about them too. So are they really gone?
No, they are here with us all the time. Their energy surrounds us….. if you are religious then they went to a better place. If you’re not…. They transformed and went to a different place.

Guanfei · Accepted Answer

I don't deny it. The more and the earlier you accept it, the easier it will be.
A bit more than a week before my mom died, she asked to go to the hospital, "for a check up".
My mom hated hospitals, she would do anything to avoid going there. Her asking openly to go meant she knew that she was at the end. And I knew too. At that moment, I started accepting what was going to happen.
And when she died, of course it hit me, but much less than the rest of the family who were expecting a recovery.

beenherebefore · Accepted Answer

Is not something I think about. My grandma is 87yo she doesn't have much time left and will eventually transition to another dimension in probably less than ten years. We all know is going to happen and I don't live in a fantasy world where people live eternally. I can only worry about the things I can control. I live abroad and visit her once a year, when I visit her I make sure we spend quality time together because I know one day she's not going to be here. Is part of life. I'd rather focus and live in the present moment than waste my time thinking about the future or even the past, the future is in God's hands only.

thegreenyogi · Accepted Answer

One breath at a time. There's nothing that can prepare you for loosing a close one and when it happens it will hurt a lot. In my personal experience the one thing that helped me was knowing that the person I lost was travelling in the atmosphere freed of his crippled and sick body and free of pain and even if I couldn't physically see him or touch him I knew he was there.

Bricealan · Answer

@liaraven I wish I knew. Just lost my only brother in January to Cancer. He was prior Air Force, and I have his pictures boarding a Jet Trainer, in ROTC, and his medals and ribbons, and pictures when we were very small, and as adults. This is in my computer room along with some portraits he had made several years ago

HusamRocks · Answer

We believe dead people go to a better place or a worse one depending on their actions when they were alive and we ask god for forgiveness and to have mercy on our dead beloved ones, we also believe death is something u can't escape and we will all die one day, the difference is where r u gonna go 💀✌🏻

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Death can be a relief, instead of a ''burden''.

Death is predictable - it catches all of us one day.

I cope by: consciously and positively using the time before this happens.

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we are not ''losing' someone - unless we lose the memories of them.

RHK36 · Answer

I lose that fear and sadness every year with each loss from either a friend or family member. I've already become slightly dull to it and my mentality just shifts to being a realist. We all will die, so make the most of the time you have with yourself and others. If you truly care you'll spend more time and effort on those still around.

SotiCoto · Answer

Death doesn't really impact me that way. I've been wanting to be dead as long as I've been alive and conscious, so I can't ever see it as a bad thing. Family members who died before me were just going where I wanted to be... so I continue to wait.

Jay-_- · Answer

The truth is there is no trick, anyone could say this or that, it's a lie, the pain just gets easier over time, and when that happens the more you truly think about it the more you realize they don't have to suffer in this world anymore (I guess you can say that's how I cope.

DangerouslyCute · Answer

as long as they are still here I enjoy every minute... and if their time comes... I cherish their memory...

Purpleronnie · Answer

Well , accepting that nobody lives forever means that the majority of us will loose someone close to us as that’s inevitable… so that’s the logic part where accepting it’s going to happen at one stage is part of the process but can by no means prepare us other than just by

Coping with it , well that can mean different things to all of us , as well as being different because of who or what that person was to us or the circumstances. A person leaving our lives couldn’t be the same as a person being taken from us etc. so I can offer no generic advice other that loss is unfortunately a considerable part of life in one shape or another , so we take the time to deal with the emotions , process them and then get on with our lives as best we can for as long as we can.

strateguy632 · Answer

Fear of losing? I don't fear it, either they will be here to visit or not but nothing to fear. When she died i remembered good memories, and that she lived long and now free from bodily pain that all elderly suffer.

eagle1951 · Answer

seen a lot of death in my lifetime time friends family in war. It's hard, but I just do what i have to do to take care of what needs done. In 84, I lost twin daughters, had to be there for my wife. In 2018, after 37 years, I lost my wife. it's hard but you go on wether you want to or not

exitseven · Answer

Everyone has to deal with it in their own way. The way not to cope is to not cope. You have to allow yourself to mourn the loss instead of distracting yourself so you do not have to deal with it.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m thankful for the time I had with them in this life, that every moment was precious and thankful to have known them.

I recall the good memories and reflect on their character, personality, events associated with them.

How I look past the fear of losing another and not having my beloved family members in my life forever is, live in the moment and be grateful they are with you now. Cherish each moment as if it were your last and savior it.

That is all I can do really.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Anticipatory grief can be just as intense as grief after a loss. It doesn't mean you're “pre-grieving” or will grieve less later. You just have to roll with it.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I like isolate and keep to myself. And just spend time alone... write in my journal. Talk to close friends...

FreyaRed · Answer

I lost my mother last year and I feel somehow more free.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Appreciate those people in your life as if you will lose them.

Lynx122 · Answer

I guess I'd try and talk to the people in my life for support. That's all you can really do. In the past I couldn't even feel grief because I shut down emotionally, now I can. I haven't experienced a loss of a family member yet in this state so I don't know how it would feel.

Shiprex · Answer

One way to cope with it is to share the last days with them as positively as possible so they can see they are loved and that they can be less anxious about the unknown of death. For oneself, it is a good idea to have others around you who can relate and understand the sadness you're going through. Children are also good to have around at times like this, their vitality and innocence will bring a contrast to the doom and sadness of bereavement or loss.

lorenzomichael · Answer

I lost my dad in Dec of 2019 and I still miss him but only time helped me with the pain. He not only was my father he was my best friend.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Well all of of are on our way to somewhere this is a temporary stop. Death is inevitable I lost my mom that was hard i still cry sometimes. It's just a part of life

nawtee_me · Answer

Remembering that death is as much a part of life as living itself is. We will all meet our maker one day

TallAnon · Answer

Poorly 😅 It sucks and there's no stopping it. So far I'm just.. Continuing to exist.. and distracting myself.

Dorothy90 · Answer

It taste take being around family and friends think of things they did to make laugh.

genericname85 · Answer

by being sad and mourning them for a few weeks it's just a matter of time. can't skip it. it's a shitty time to go through but it can't be avoided.

Anonymous · Answer

I stay busy. Staying busy lets me put my emotions to the back of my mind and concentrate on other things. Believe it or not emotions like losing someone or watching a loved on there death bed is very drained. As someone who's not a people person being alone is the last thing I want.

jahaims · Answer

Just accept reality for what it is. Cherish the times you had because that is what is left of the people who die.

Staximus · Answer

You just do. There's not much you can do about it.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I put it in a little box inside my head and never open it.

NathanDavis · Answer

not well at all...

DJB72 · Answer

One day at a time. Everyone dies.

wkhan_87 · Answer

We can't do anything but just petiance

lostghost · Answer

Already in sadness and lost everything

Dongie · Answer

I don't very well.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Distractions would be my first choice.

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