I'm tired of my relatives constantly belittling me and making fun of me. What should I do with these ignorant people?

[Anonymous]

My friend's older brother was a lecturer at Harvard and now works there as a research assistant.

He also graduated from the best university He told me I could succeed in any field I wanted.

My aunt and her husband

"They broke my heart when they said, 'You'll never get into Harvard.'

They constantly made fun of me as a child.

Even if their children hadn't achieved anything, they thought their own children were superior to everyone else.

They made me feel so ugly and stupid as a child that I would cry.

My aunts did the same. They told me I was ugly.

But I had blonde hair, green eyes, and was tall. Her daughter was short and dark-skinned.

My aunts said they were jealous of her. She was smarter than you, prettier than you.

I'm more successful than your sister, but they still make me suffer the same things. Narcissism.

[Hardon-Collider]

You're being hurt by people who don't understand what a human being is. They're judging you by the physical body, which is just a temporary vessel. They don't have the spiritual insight to see the real you, the invisible spiritual germ that's the true you. It's impossible to love a person based on their body, because it's just a body. The only way to understand them is to see their soul, their real self. So don't fight them. Stop trying to convince them of anything. Instead, develop your own inner connection to the spiritual reality of yourself and the world. When you can see the real, invisible part of you, their opinions will no longer have the power to hurt you. You need to stop arguing with them and start building an inner life that is independent of their cruel judgments.

[ManOnFire]

Wait a minute, wait a minute. Is this an interracial family? You're blonde and green eyed but your aunt has a dark-skinned daughter? Were you adopted or something else?

In any case, you can clearly see that they have put you down all your life because they see something in you that they either hate or are jealous of, so they hope to kill your spirit. If you want to get into Harvard you certainly can if the opportunity is there. Fuck what they think.

[Asker]

My aunt's husband is Arab

[Asker]

I was always seen as ugly because I was blonde.

[Asker]

Thanks

[ManOnFire]

That is so surprising because Middle Easterners are one of the biggest demographics that worship white women and they are ecstatic when a white woman converts to Islam. Shocking that they find you ugly for being blonde.

But either way, don't let their hate destroy your spirit. I know that sounds trite or broken-recordish but it's the only thing you really can do. You have to show them you can do whatever you want, and they will hate you even more for your success. Fuck 'em.

[Asker]

pyou are right

[Nikki1989]

You are entitled to be treated with respect. Protecting yourself from hurtful people, even if they're family, is not selfish—it's sometimes necessary.

[es20490446e]

Just tell them you don't agree, without any further explanation.

This way you express your thinking and limits, without having to invest energy in useless shit.

[Anonymous]

We aren’t here to solve your problems.