I have this friend who clearly has feelings for me, even though she’s never said it directly. I know it, and she knows that I know, we both just avoid saying it out loud. She’s very affectionate and expressive, while I’m the complete opposite. I care about her a lot, but not in a romantic way, and I’ve always struggled to show affection, even with my family or close friends.
Recently, things between us have been tense. We had this long, emotional conversation where we talked about everything, all the misunderstandings, all the things that ever hurt us. I opened up more than I usually do, and in the moment it felt right, but the next day I just felt anxious and embarrassed about everything I said.
It’s been almost a week since that talk, and we haven’t really spoken since. We ended the conversation with some “agreements,” but now I feel awkward. I don’t know how to act around her anymore or how to go back to normal.
I’m not a lesbian, and I don’t want her to think that our emotional talk meant something romantic. But at the same time, I don’t want to lose the friendship either. I’m just confused about how to move forward after something like that.
Recently, things between us have been tense. We had this long, emotional conversation where we talked about everything, all the misunderstandings, all the things that ever hurt us. I opened up more than I usually do, and in the moment it felt right, but the next day I just felt anxious and embarrassed about everything I said.
It’s been almost a week since that talk, and we haven’t really spoken since. We ended the conversation with some “agreements,” but now I feel awkward. I don’t know how to act around her anymore or how to go back to normal.
I’m not a lesbian, and I don’t want her to think that our emotional talk meant something romantic. But at the same time, I don’t want to lose the friendship either. I’m just confused about how to move forward after something like that.
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Unfortunately when a friend starts to develop feelings, it makes it harder to go back to a normal friendship. Those feelings still tend to linger as does jealousy when you find someone you ARE interested in. It sounds like you've already had the conversation needed to set the tone of where your feelings are. Now you just have to wait for her to process her feelings and decide whether she can go back to being just friends in her mind or if she is unable to process those feelings and she needs to move on. Hopefully she values your friendship enough to continue talking and being friends, but there are no guarantees on that.
Good luck though. I hope it works out for you both.
Yepp