What you think I should do?

[Anonymous]

Me and my child father no longer together anymore. He wants to see our son for the holidays but he is very abusive to me and threatened to spit in my face and choke me next time he see me. Should I bring our son around him?

Updates

8 mo

Everytime I get around him so he can see our son he want to abuse me in front of our son physically then I have to get the police involved and then say mean things to me to try and bring me down.

[Amy_Mi]

Your safety and your child’s well being are paramount.

Exposure to abuse physical, verbal, or emotional is never acceptable, especially in front of a child.

Bringing your son around him in these circumstances puts both of you at risk and can have lasting trauma.

Consider legal guidance for supervised visitation or alternative arrangements that protect your child and yourself.

Boundaries, protection, and clarity come first, love alone cannot justify danger.

[itsannalee]

He is the father, If he still supports and provides your child, you can't forbid him from seeing your child.

[strateguy632]

Yes but with someone as a group. They will hear how he talks and you can get full custody.