What do you think I should do?

[Anonymous]

As a guy, there's a girl at my gym that I like. I always see her at the gym and would like to talk to her. You know, have a brief conversation and get to know her name. If it doesn't end up in a relationship or even a friendship, that's okay. I just want to approach and talk to her without it being forced, which is what I personally struggle with. I'm open to any ideas on how to approach her. Please have a well thought-out idea and not a brief/one-word answer. Thank you in advance.

[SueShe]

The problem with the gym, just like many other places is that it is less of a social contact place where people go to chat with others.

If I spend hundreds if not thousands for a plan, I want to use it to the maximum to do my program and not to talk with others on unimportant topics. That is a total waste of money, mainly for younger people that don't have a large income.

Also, a lot of girls feel that they are harassed when guys start talking with them without apparent reasons because we know what the ultimate goal of that approach is.

If you want to talk to this girl, do it in such a way that it does not come across as a clumsy attempt to pick her up. Ask her to show you a certain exercise she is doing and that you are not doing so that you can practice it as well.

[Asker]

Yeah, I get that. If it were at a coffee shop, classroom, or at a workplace then it would be a bit easier, but a gym is pretty different. Anyway, if I were to talk to her I'd keep it gym related and brief of course. One idea I had in mind was asking her if she's almost done with a workout machine that I want to use and others similar are taken. At least that way it would seem more natural as opposed to just walking up at a random moment. My idea might kinda suck but it was what I had in mind and, like I said, I'm open to new ideas. Thank you for taking the time to answer. I appreciate your feedback.

[Asker]

Yeah, I'm a troll for not wanting to see answers that don't follow the instructions of the post. Some logic right there.

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[Asker]

You're very welcome, my friend. Thank you again for your feedback

[ArrowheadSW]

Funny thing is I've never been all that into approaching women that I'm interested in at the gym. Maybe I think it is their workout time and they might not want to be approached, or whatever.

One thing you can do is if there is anything about her that you can see as common ground, you can ask her about that. If she brings any kind of book with her or whatever, you can use that to talk about.

[Asker]

I am rarely interested in a woman that attends the same gym as I do. The only other time was a couple years ago, which didn't work out but I got to talk to her. That at least was a step in the right direction. I never see her in the gym with a book. Most people are either watch something on their phone or on the TV. That said, I will keep that in mind and thanks for your feedback.