What do you think I should do?

[Anonymous]

I just took an at home pregnancy test and it said I'm pregnant. imma take another one once I use the bathroom again, and go to the doctor Wednesday. I'm so scared. I love my boyfriend but we are still working on major issues. In scared of getting pregnant and he doesn't want another kid rn he has 3 already. I was a virgin before him. And I was looking at types of birth control to go on. I kept telling him he should wrap up but he kept reassuring me he knows how to pull out. And I wouldn't get pregnant. I'm so scared. I just decided to go back to school. And he still is working on his trust issues. i feel like an idiot. I called him and told him and the first thing he said was that he never came in me as if he thinks I've been with someone else. I'm so angry mainly at myself. I don't want this baby but I've always been against abortions. I know I'd keep it a secret forever and hold that Shame. I don't know what to do. I've been having sex since October, I never thought I'd get pregnant this fast. I thought he knew what he was doing. I told him I'm against abortions for myself. I'm praying I'm not actually pregnant. I wish I was still waiting for marriage. His reaction showed me I chose wrong

[SteveSmith1985]

I cannot imagine what you're going through right now. I wish there was something I could say, or something I could do to help you. But unfortunately there really isn't.

The reaction of the father makes my blood-boil. Since you don't need to hear me bad-mouth him--at length--right now, I'll just say that there is no excuse for his actions. And he can't deny the truth at the end of the day.

What you need is supports.

Whether that's family supports, good friends, or community supports are going to depend on your particular situation.

Right now you are going through this all alone. That is too much for anybody.

You need to get some supports around you. People in your corner. So whether it's having a difficult talk with some family member or friend, to let them in to be on your team (and I think you'll find your loved ones more willing to be there for you than you might assume. At least I hope they will).

But look into community supports wherever you live. There ARE people and organizations wherever you live that can help you in various ways.

You need to do what you can to find people to lean-on. This is a very very hard thing to try and face by yourself.

I'm sorry I don't have anything more comforting to tell you.

I wish you all the best

[Asker]

Thank you

[In_Trance]

A guy with three kids told you he knows how to pull out and you believed him?

Wtf

[Asker]

I figured he learned from his mistakes. And. I know I'm dumb. He told me the last 2 lied about being in birth control. I don't know I don't know anymore

[Anonymous]

Home tests are pretty accurate but confirm it with your doctor to be sure. If you are pregnant, you need to know from him that he’s going to support you through this, emotionally and financially. He needs to step up here whether the two of you remain a couple or not. If abortion isn’t something you can do, is adoption an option? If not, he’s going to have to do his part in raising the child. The two of you really need to sit down and have a mature conversation and hash out the details. Also, will your family help you through this? The thing about the pull out method is guys get complacent with it. My ex was pretty vigilant about it at first but, after a while, I noticed he seemed to already be cumming as he pulled out. I went on the pill before anything happened but I think he was getting some of it inside me. I’m guessing your boyfriend got lazy like this, even if he doesn’t want to admit fault. I’m sorry this happened. I hope you can work it out.

[artsy_dragon]

Go to a doctor to confirm it and then take you're next steps from there