Is it normal to feel like you don’t fit in as friends drift apart?

[MissSunshine2]

I am not better or worse, but I’m different from a lot of the people around me. This feeling is getting greater as time goes by. I come from a comfortable, educated family and several of my friends are from poorer, less educated backgrounds.

We are starting to move in separate directions, as life goes on. That’s been their decision. I accepted them as they were, but I think in the end, they couldn’t accept me. My way of speaking, dressing, behaving socially, my interests, goals. They don’t like these things anymore or can’t relate to them.

strangely enough, I’m keeping the wealthy friends and the middle class ones. I considered the poorer friends to be closer friends, though. I’ve noticed some jealousy from the poorer friends, too. Some resentment.

[Iron_Man]

Friends always drift apart. People are very selfish. They have their own lives. Other people are married only true loyal family counts to be there for you through thick and thin

[jahaims]

I have the same friend group from when I was 9 and see them/ keep in touch often. We all have kids etc and live in different states. If you were actually ever friends the drifting doesn't happen. Sound like you are used to fake friends.

[Iron_Man]

@jahaims they live in Orlando, Florida. I live in Miami. He hardly comes down here.

[Iron_Man]

He’s married with one daughter

[Iron_Man]

Thanks for the award, Miss sunshine

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yeah thats normal. We have to realize in life some friends we're going to out grown its unfortunate but it's a part of life

[Bklynbadboy12]

Thanks for the MHO

[sage2021]

Since you have learned what happens with people who don't share the same life style as you, pick up their toys and leave to go where they surround themselves with people who are more like they are.

I really can't blame them either as I would feel very uncomfortable around someone such as yourself and I have always steared away from people such as yourself all of my life because of that.

Except that I am not a jealous type of person, so I wouldn't be jealous of you at all. I just wouldn't care to be around you because I would be too uncomfortable.

I believe that it's normal that certain people less fortunate than you would stop mingling with you and your other friends.

Next time you find out that someone doesn't have an equal or better life style than you do, save their time and just don't make friends with them in the first place. It only ends up bad for them.

There's an old saying "Birds of a feather flock together." It's kinda the same way with some people.

[MissSunshine2]

Bad for them? What about for me?

[sage2021]

Well, you still have so many other friends to be with. You don't know what it feels like to be around people who make you feel out of place to the point that they don't care to be in your presence anymore.
Since you are always the one on top financially, etc., you need to put yourself in their shoes and understand that they probably felt worse than you do.

[MissSunshine2]

Interesting, why would you feel uncomfortable around people like me and avoid us? We’re just another kind of person. Some of us, like people everywhere else, are good people who help the poorer people that avoid us because they feel uncomfortable.

[MissSunshine2]

Oh? Well I might understand it when you put it that way, but that’s not my fault that they grew up poorer. I actually have a few friends, but not a tonne anymore. You’re right that I don’t know what it’s like to struggle financially. In the other hand, they don’t know what it’s like to grow up with mental illness like schizophrenia and severe depression that I have to live with and constantly feeling like I don’t belong. My point being that everyone has problems. Money doesn’t make you sad, but it doesn’t stop you from having problems like everyone else.

[sage2021]

Even people who are poor are good people and even help the other poor people. But you probably wouldn't know that about that.
Would you feel comfortable being around the Queen 👑 of England and her family and their social status?

[MissSunshine2]

If I liked them? Yes, why not? Poor people judging people with money just seems to me as much of a form of snobbery and ignorance as rich people being dismissive and judgmental of those without it.

[MissSunshine2]

I’m not uncomfortable with any type of person.

[sage2021]

I really wish you would stop referring to the other people as 'poor people' and rather just call them people!!

You're the one who keeps putting people in different categories so perhaps you might stop doing that all of the time and just call them people. Period.

I'm not going to comment anymore about this tonight okay because I don't think that you will ever know how uncomfortable it feels to be around someone such as yourself when they don't have the same social status as you keep clearly pointing out!!

[MissSunshine2]

I probably never will get it, because I don’t feel the same way about richer or poorer people and I don’t think I’m the one who’s making an issue of it. But yes, probably best not to argue over it; and agree to disagree.

[MissSunshine2]

I think you might’ve misunderstood the point I’m making here. It’s not to pat myself on the back for things I never earnt that others don’t have. It’s something entirely different. It’s about finding my place in the world when I no longer seek accepted by some of my friends.

[MissSunshine2]

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