Why do friends and coworkers keep finding me annoying and dropping me?

[Anonymous]

I’m on the autism spectrum and I do have a bit of abandonment issues. I don’t struggle to make friends but I struggle to keep them. I’ve been kicked out of a lot of friend groups, elementary, middle school high school and even college. Some say I’m too much, I’m weird, mocked me for my autistic friends and I got called repetitive and annoying.

• I just don’t get it. I work at an autism school and am a good paraprofessional but some coworkers find me pretty annoying and I’ve seen some roll their eyes when they see me.
  One of my coworkers let’s call her Mariah. She talks to the teacher and the other paraprofessional except me. She gets annoyed when I speak or when I miss social cues. She has patients with autistic children but not me.
  My three college friends (neurotypical) last week blocked me from their phones and I got removed from the group chat because they found me weird, annoying, rude and always repetitive. Well they don’t answer when I ask or say anything. I found out they have been hanging out without me. Even a few of my neurodivergent peers were annoyed with me and dropped me.
  
  

[Breanna_nonbinary]

I’m also autistic. Sadly I’ve found that it’s just the way we think and speak. We don’t always say the right things that NTs usually do since we tend to be smarter and more introverted. My advice is to just seek out those that get you and build on that. Sometimes letting other know that you are ND helps. 😋

[Asker]

Everytime I do it ends up being a disaster. People don’t like us. Mariah can’t stand me I can tell. Even dating is rough

[Asker]

Whatever I let someone I ND I get through it so differently or disrespected

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You answered your own question on why. Sorry that happens to you but nothing will change if you don’t change your habits. Even I know better than to infodump twice in one week

[Asker]

What do you mean my habits?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Your behavior

[Asker]

I don’t have a behavior. It’s everyone else that are being buttheads

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I would think you, of all people, would be able to recognize and analyze your own patterns of behavior. If you’re unhappy with your friend group, choose new friends. They only interact with you because you decide they should. Just like they decide they no longer want to interact with you. If you struggle to take accountability and would rather blame others for your mistakes, I can easily see why people stop talking to you

[SieghardWalsung]

As an autistic myself

Chances are this has more to do with your abandonment issues than it does with your neurodiversity. People can smell that shit from a mile away.

Get over that, and things should be significantly easier.

[jahaims]

Because you are annoying.