How can I stop caring what others think and find like-minded friends?

[Anonymous]

Also how to find friends with uncaring behaviour.
I am having a hard time finding new friends.

[Nikki1989]

Anywhere. You just need to act and seem approachable, and people will be attracted.

[TurkishGuyy]

Just believe that no one else matters in this life but you, and that you are always living to make yourself happy.

[Asker]

I have become someone who enjoys making others happy.
I have forgotten about what makes me happy

[HollyK21]

Uncaring behavior, what’s that mean?

[Asker]

I am a people pleaser, I want to stop that.
I don't have any boundaries, and I want to get boundaries.
I hate to be taken for granted.
And not getting invited for any activity. If I have some time to spare I will

[HollyK21]

I used to be more of a people pleaser as well, but it was something I actively had to move away from. I did so by correcting my way of thinking whenever a certain thought popped up.
For example, I got comfortable telling people NO. No is a boundary, and it is a one word sentence. Remind yourself that you don’t need to justify saying no, and remember that nobody asks questions when you say YES, so NO deserves the same consideration.
I also stopped caring so much about likability, because that’s part of people pleasing — you want the person to like you, not get mad or upset with you.

[Asker]

Exactly thanks for understanding.
I need to understand and actually I need to put boundaries.
Also I need to find new friends

[HollyK21]

I feel like finding new friends is one of those things that come with time. It’s hard to find people you’re so compatible with that you’d wanna build friendships. In any case, there are apps specifically made to find friends, so you could always try that. I’d also suggest putting an AD on the Neighborhood app. I know that sounds lame and/or desperate but it’s really not. In my area the app is mostly used to update each other on coyotes and stuff but I have seen ADs by people who just moved to the area and looking for friends, or even just seeking local friends in general. They get responses too. Could be worth a shot!

[Asker]

Ok maybe after my exams

[HollyK21]

Maybe!

[Asker]

I hope I can find something that I enjoy, if I do it's much easier to find a group which might have same interests

[HollyK21]

Keep an eye out for things in your area and consider trying something even if it’s moderately outside of your normal interests. Mainly because you never know, it could turn into something you enjoy and no matter what it gives you the opportunity to meet new people.

[user15738]

I think so