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How do I cope with my body-shaming MIL while heavily pregnant?

I just need to vent, im 34 weeks pregnant and its fucking boiling in the uk right now.

My mother in law is a very good woman and has a lot on her plate. We usually get on really well and often go out for girly bunch dates but ever since I got pregnant she's been super disrespectful towards me and I don’t think she hears the stuff she says about me sometimes.

she's always making comments about my body and eating habits. Im pretty sure she's partly to fault why my stister in law was anorexic at one point. She values her female family members on there weight more then personality typical boomer mum traits.

I grew up in a house were my mum loved to feed us and it was really important to eat good. Im not fat at all im just short at 5ft so weight effects me differently. My husband comes from a family of female models everyone is super thin and tall.

Whenever I eat she's saying stuff like " i dont know how you eat all that " well yeah janet I fucking paid for it so im not just gonna leave half so the waiter hopefully thinks im skinny 🙄.

The other day I was super tired and hot and she was following me from behind. She said "oh gosh, you've gotten so big in the back too" yeah janet im aware, my feet are fucking swollen, im waddling and my arse looks like the back end of a bus. Im carrying all that weight at 5ft so politely fuck off.

She keeps banging on about how big I've gotten and but no one knew she was was pregnant until she was very close to giving birth. Sorry im not 6ft janet and my baby is positioned correctly.

She also keeps looking at the royal family as an example of how we should raise our child. Im sorry but were a working class family and I ain't one of those whose gonna act like my kids shit dont stink. Plus the royal family the last place im looking at for parenting guidance.

Then today my husband offered i cook dinner for her as her brother is sick in hospital. She said "oh fucking hell" I lost it and said janet can go fuck herself then.
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she's also thinks i can't cook because I cook "that dirty foreign muck" 🙄 like what janet a chicken fucking korma. Women probably thinks toothpaste is spicy. She talks as if im a bimbo and lazy too because I don't want to help out at her charity whilst im on maternity leave.
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she's very loud when she's stressed or excited too and screams and flaps around and no one else can get a word in. she's gonna drive me crazy if she starts doing that on the ward. Sometimes she says "how's are baby" and I think she just sees me as a vessel. She asked if I was upset but she said I couldn't see her brother in hospital because of the baby which I understand but doesn't think she upsets me when she tells me im big constantly
How do I cope with my body-shaming MIL while heavily pregnant?
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