My 26-year-old friend is still tracked by their parents—Is this OK?

[Anonymous]

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When she is with me her parents still track her through mobile phone and she phones her mother 24/7 to me it feels a bit much especially at that age it’s like she never leaves her family bubble

[MrOracle]

Does she still live with her parents? Is she on their phone plan?

I bought my first house at 26, after moving out at 19 and being completely responsible for myself at that age. I was often broke in the early years and there were stretches of time when my only working transportation was a bicycle until I could get my crappy car running again, but I was the only one keeping myself alive and running.

I suspect your friend is still very dependent on her parents for daily survival, and has never had to decide between fixing her car and paying her electric bill. Such situations tend to snap most people out of their delusions of "deserving" luxuries and keeps them grounded in reality. And when you are utterly dependent on others, that usually comes with conditions that wouldn't be present if you were completely independent and fully responsible for yourself.

[OneViewpoint]

Sounds like mom, dad, or both have trouble letting go. And your girlfriend has trouble setting boundaries. Good luck to any guy who tries to date into that mess. I've seen that behavior with jealous husbands. It's counter productive because the wives feel smothered and mistrusted and then resentment sets in.

[Masie]

That seems a bit much to me at that age or even younger to be fair. My parents didn't track me even in my early teens. They just relied on me checking in and being honest about where I was, who I was with, and what I was doing.

That seemed to be enough peace of mind for them. I had to hold up my end of the bargain by being diligent in checking in and not forgetting, but that wasn't too hard to remember to do.

[Asker]

I’m starting to out grow her a bit I just hate when she’s always on the phone or video call right in my face

[Masie]

That would be annoying. If you are out with someone you are there for their company, not to call and talk to other people.

[Screenwriter]

IS she living on her own or is she still living at home.

Sounds like too much to me. I think a phone call if she's still at home would be enough if she's going to be coming in very late. But tracking her? I don't think there's any excuse for that. Those apron strings seem way too tight, and worse yet, she's allowing it...

[Texasgal95]

I’m assuming she lives at home and they pay the bill I’m not saying it’s right but I’m assuming there’s some reason why they think it’s OK to do that and maybe she asked them to do that for her maybe something‘s happen that she hasn’t told you maybe they haven’t said why

[BadApple69]

It’s a little much but if she doesn’t mind then that’s a good thing that someone knows where she is.
If she does mind then it’s time to say to mom and dad that she doesn’t want to be tracked anymore.

[DishLady]

Whether it's ok or not is none of your business. The "friend" is 26 and old enough to get their own phone.

[DryGermanGuy]

Sounds like another case of "Only in America". 🙄 It's ridiculous, of course.

[Asker]

🤣🤣

[_Jenny_]

If she is mentally and physically stable she should be on her own. Is there anything you didn’t mention about her situation?

[Purpleronnie]

That’s not up to me to decide.


Personally I wouldn’t allow that but clearly she does.

[LiamJHayden]

Some people launch later in life than others. For one of my friends, her mom and uncle lived with their mom until they were both past 50.

[kaucky1]

If your friend is a girl then may seem ok may not trust the dad though

[Manuelwe]

I can say female adults are not as adult as her parents when they was her age. Fact

[jazzy34]

Try minding your business. :)

[Asker]

Hard to when she’s constantly on video chat right in your face

[InStrictConfidence]

Wow. Usually not.

Is there a reason why?

[exitseven]

if it is okay with him.

[glennos89]

Is your friend a boy or girl?

[Med_guy1978]

A bit over protective maybe?

[Agatha01]

Is she speacil needs?

[Vegasrunner]

Is she unmarried?

[Anastasia76_]

I’d feel stalked.

[kinks1951]

I think not

[kabier]

Not at all ok!

[Anonymous]

Yes sure