What’s a fair way to split expenses when renting from married friends?

[PrettyFeet0807]

I’m considering moving in with my best friend and her soon-to-be husband. They recently purchased a home, and I’d have my own bedroom and bathroom with access to the shared spaces.

We haven’t discussed financial details yet, but I’m curious what others think is fair.

Since there would be three adults living together, would it be reasonable to split expenses three ways? Or should I expect to pay half since they’re a married couple?

I understand I’d essentially be renting a room in their home, but I also wouldn’t be building equity or have equal ownership of the property.

I value our friendship and don’t want finances to create problems.

What would you consider a fair arrangement, and how would you approach the conversation if they expected you to pay half?

[SueShe]

If you must share their place, then settle your share on the pro rata of the space you use.

If there are rooms that are inaccessible to you because the couple wants to keep access for themselves only, then you don't pay your share for those rooms. Also bear in mind that if the one or the other member of that couple does some chores for you, such as laundry and/or cooking for example, then you have to take those costs into account as well.

A good way to calculate the individual share would be to add the 3 revenues and then calculate your percentage of the total revenues.

If you earn a higher revenue, then it is obvious that your share should be higher as well.

[HollyK21]

Honestly, I’d suggest going over all this with them first, and ask to have a couple days to consider their conditions, expectations, etc. Bring that list here, then we can better share our opinions. I totally understand you’re just trying to get an idea, but who knows what they’re going to say.

[slatyb]

You certainly should not pay half if they are building equity. You should pay maybe a third or less of the mortgage payment, a third of the utilities, and a third of the groceries if you are eating together.

[Anonymous]

They own the home and purchased it so splitting is not how I would think about it. You're not equally in it togethee as you are not 1/3 the owner of the house. You probably just need to agree on a number together to rent the room.

[Nikki1989]

I would insist on splitting all bills evenly, but that is just me.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

DON’T DO IT, Get Your Own Place.

[jahaims]

Get your own place