How Can I Stop Being "Mom-Zoned"?

[Anonymous]

Most guys that I interact with be it that I am flirting with them or simply being friendly I get mom-zoned. I do not know what am I doing or how I can get it to stop.

They say things like I would make a good mom, could be their mother, could go to college with them to be their mother, can they call be mama, can I be their second mom, and the list goes on.

I know that it is not and insult and I try not to feel insulted but I feel like by saying that they are basically saying they are not romantically interested in me, they are not sexually interested in me, and I am not no visually appealing in anyway.

I dress normal, wear my hair normal, I'm of average height and weight. There is noting that I can see that would make me look like a mom.

What can I do to stop this from happening? What could I be doing? Help please because it is really frustrating and starting to take a tole on me and my self esteem.

[Alexias]

You remind many guys of their mothers and if they like their mothers then it isn't a bad thing. When one has a positive relationship with their parent, they tend to look for the same/similar qualities their parent has/had. Being mom-zoned will seem bad at a young age but when older many guys want to marry someone that take good care of their future kids!

[DiEms]

You should not feel bad about it. Of course it's not meant to be a compliment but it means that you apparently have your head on straight and priorities in order. Don't change. Wait for the right person to come alone.

[jpinka]

wow. are you cancer by chance? what's your birth sign?

my boyfriend calls me mom when I get into lecture mode. and it natural for me, part of my sign, I'm cancer and encouraging and all that stuff

[TheDigitalSaint]

Are you the type to give a lot of advice and comfort to people out of nowhere? If so, lighten up on that and learn how to tease and flirt a bit more.

[Asker]

I think that might be it because I do that all the time, even when I barely know the person.

[TheDigitalSaint]

There's nothing wrong with being a caring girl. Heck, a lot of girls could learn a thing or two from "mom zoned" types. Lol, I like the term. Anyways, you can still be caring, but show your caring/advice side only AFTER you've flirted with a guy and he's flirted back. Advice and nurturing are better once you're in a relationship, otherwise you're just a really nice friend, erm, mommy! :P

[MakeLoveNotWar]

You probably act too mature for your age.