I’m petrified of being a mom any advice?

[Anonymous]

This guy got me pregnant really quickly and I just always said if I got pregnant I wouldn’t have an abortion I just can’t the guilt would eat me up for days and days and days Honestly years. He’s said he wants nothing to do with the baby although at first he was the one so excited so I bought a flat for all of us, and then he turned his back on me. He completely did a 360 and changed and just said he dosent want the baby while I’m 4 months in. After I’ve bought everything got it sorted out, I never thought oh I’d be a single mom just because of how happy he was to be involved and now he literally is only speaking to me if I get rid of it. I’m 22 I’ll be 23 when having the baby but I’m just petrified, what if I’m a terrible mom? I wake up and cry every morning because I’m so so scared that I’ll be bad at it and regret keeping my baby, it’s such a blessing and I love children I’ve always had jobs to do with nursery and I’m great with kids but that’s when there not my own kids. I’m just so nervous. My heart faces everyday. I know I can do things alone because I always do but I know I will get lonely. I know I can have a abortion but it’s just something I wouldn’t want to do after I’ve seen my baby move etc, I always said 23 would be a great age and now I’m in the position I feel as though it might not be? I’ve got TONSSS of support everyone is super happy I’ve got a entire village and a great house etc but I’m just petrified of raising the child with no dad.

[Anonymous]

It's completely understandable to feel scared and overwhelmed about the prospect of becoming a mother, especially in the face of challenging circumstances like the ones you are currently experiencing. However, it's important to remember that you are not alone, and that there are resources and support available to help you through this journey.

Here are a few things you can consider:

1. Seek emotional support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional about your fears and concerns. Having someone to listen and offer support can help you feel less alone and more empowered.

2. Educate yourself: Read books, articles, and other resources about pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting to help you feel more prepared and confident in your abilities.

3. Connect with other moms: Join a support group or reach out to other moms in your community to connect, share experiences, and get advice.

4. Prioritize self-care: Take care of your physical and emotional health by eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest. Make time for activities that bring you joy and help you relax.

5. Seek legal support: Consider seeking legal support to establish paternity and secure child support for your baby.

Remember that becoming a mother is a journey, and it's okay to feel scared or unsure at times. However, with the right support and resources, you can navigate this journey and provide a loving and supportive home for your child.

You are capable, strong, and your unconditional love for your child will guide you through the journey of motherhood. Absolutely! A woman is capable of raising a child on her own, and with the right support and resources, she can provide a loving and supportive home for her child. While having a partner or co-parent can be helpful, it is not necessary to be a good or successful paren whether the baby daddy want to be there or not. He better not expect himself to be there after you have your beautiful baby when you and your baby do great without him. It's important to focus on your own strength and resilience, and to seek out support from friends, family, or professionals when you need it.

[docster]

Don't forget the third option: giving the child up for adoption to a couple that are ready to start a family.

[SoJust]

Such things can happen to you don't give up and raise the baby on your own you can overcome everything

[mommymommymommy]

I don't want kids, but you do you bro. I can't stand them