I’m not naturally maternal, will I be a good mom?

[Anonymous]

I’m 14 weeks pregnant and I’ve noticed recently I’m not very maternal. I don’t have much maternal instincts. I’m 22 and I’ve always just kinda had a easy life and just like my holidays and hair doing and just things for myself, I care a LOT about people though but I’ve noticed sometimes I can be quite messy or I’m not the best at cooking or even washing I end up shrinking the clothes. The guy I’m seeing the father always brings it up too it’s just not a natural thing in me. Although I’m Great with kids ( I’ve always been told how patient and caring and how I’d be a great nursery teacher and how I just am great with kids. But I’m really worried. I’m Not sure if anyone has watched Modern family but I’m just exactly the character of Hayley but in real life. I’m just very ditzy too and I’m so scared. I love my baby already though even staring at the scan photos I wanna do everything for him/her. But I just don’t have much life skills all I can offer is love and support and affection.

[Anonymous]

Then why tf did you get pregnant? If you’re messy. It means immaturity. That means mental health problems.

How are you gonna care for A HUMAN BEING if you can’t even care for yourself. You’re gonna put that entire human through Hell. And once that child shows up, it isn’t about YOU🫵 anymore. Your life is over. It’s all about the child.

Your entitlement and narcissism is gonna have to be left out, because you’ll be the prime provider and caretaker of a person that’s either gonna grow up to do GOOD. Or grow up to do BAD. And if you’re not educated, maternal, and precise about how to organize yourself for this lifestyle; THEN I CAN ONLY FORECAST CHAOS & TRAUMA for the innocent kid, this innocent life who didn’t ask for this.

22 is soo young. At 22 your frontal lobe isn’t DONE FORMING. Your frontal lobe is done forming at 25. Are you 25?
You’re gonna put yourself, the child and the father THROUGH PURE HELL. And these type of relationships usually end due to the cost of a child, and the drama that comes with the already disorganized lifestyle you have this very moment. I feel that relationship is gonna end at some point in time. Because the stats says this happens more often than not in this family dynamic. THAT isn't TO SHIT ON YOUR CAKE. It’s the truth, a hard pill to swallow. It’s just what happens. That baby is gonna SHAKE your entire relationship. And the odds are against you 🫵, it looks like you’re gonna become a single mother.

LETS HOPE!! LETS HOPE THIS doesn't HAPPEN!! Because then you’re gonna be in an even deeper hole.

Why do you think they tell teenagers not to have sex? Why do you think even college students aren't trying to be pregnant? Do you have some sort of generational wealth passed down from parents?

Or are you living check by check and don’t have anywhere near 30,000 in savings? Does your boyfriend have 30,000 In savings? Because if you’re working a minimum-wage job, dead-end job.. your man too. You don’t have generational-wealth passed down. You don’t have 30,000 in saving, nor does your boyfriend.. soon to be single baby-daddy. You don’t own your own new car, and still making car payments. you're DONE 😬

[Opinion Owner]

My sister is just like you. Except she’s 23 which is basically the same shT.
And my sister has a deadend- minimum-wage paying job. She’s not married so the birth will be out of wedlock. She’s immature just like you. Her room looks like absolute garbage 🗑️.
She never does a single thing EVER, or has EVER taken into account how disgusting and disorganized her lifestyle is.
She’s always going to parties or parks. Florida Parks. Like a kid. Her mindless simp boyfriend has no testosterone, or word and is more like her pet than anything. Also in a deadend job. NO CAREER. NO MOTIVATION. NO MATURITY. Relationship the length of 2 years.
Frontal Lobe not formed.
Living with parents. Narcissistic entitlement.
Below 20K in savings.

Don’t own their own news cars. Still making car payments. Don’t own their own house.

🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

HOW DO YOU THINK THIS IS GONNA GO? You can either swallow the red pill accept the damage you’ve caused. Or take the blue pill. Stay ignorant. Ignore harsh truths. Live in Lala Land. 🤡 That’s up to YOU🫵


DO YOU WANT TO PREPARE FOR TRUTH OR SUCK ON A PACIFIER OF LIES 🍼

[Anemone978]

I wasn't naturally maternal myself.. but when they were born they became my whole world, I loved them like nothing in this world... they were beautiful and precious and I did everything for them and I didn't feel irritated by them.. It was a little different with my second child but that was because I had postpartum depression but I still did everything for her and took care of her.. I just didn't hold her as much or bond with her... but once I finally got over it when she was 1 and a half she was amazing too and she started learning really fast and now she is my tough little girl! But you defo need to work on being more clean and stuff, you have to put the kids first and think of their health and things like that... You can do it if you try your best!

[ImalwaysrightOK]

I'm sure you'll do just fine. You say you already love your baby and are thinking about how to be a good mom to your baby. That alone puts you ahead of about 50% of mothers today. Good luck + congratulations 🍼🎉

[Avicenna]

Relax- you will be just fine as long you are a diligent parent. Every parent who did it for the first time had at least a few doubts that they could handle it.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t think it’s about being maternal.

I am not very fond of children, but children love me and every time they run to me to hug me, I found out I instinctively embrace them in my arms and they put their head on my chest and call me mommy.

There’s more to us, than we realize and it’s quite possible you’ve got all the maternal instincts without even realizing.

[Akam93]

Every mom is a good mom. The hardest part is the long nights of crying and no sleep. But you get through and get strong for them. If you can't handle it baby boxes are always available to put your child in so they can be adopted by loving parents who can't have children.

[Jazzy54]

You’ve never been a mother before so of course not. It’ll kick in, though. Don’t worry. I’d suggest reading books to prepare (i. e. What To Expect When You’re Expecting) and ask for advice from mothers you know. 😊

[Jazzy54]

My mom was about your age when she had me. She had ZERO patience for children and was still kind of immature. However, she learned and has been a loving, caring, and patient mother ever since. 😌

[DownInTheDumps]

If you already love the baby and you wanna do everything for him or her, that right there is you experiencing some maternal instincts.

[whorable]

we’re all learning while we go so no pressure to be perfect! keep giving that baby love and support and you’ve already made yourself the most perfect imperfect mom ever! you got this

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Life skills can be learned over time, don't worry! 😊💕

[TheSpaceGnome]

So learn how to cook, clean, do laundry, etc, you have to anyway for yourself, might as well start now before its born.

[altaboy]

Most likely it will kick in all on its own. You will likely love the little twerp. YOUR kid isn't like other people's children--at least not to you.

[leahzrc]

girl I had an abortion on Friday, I am too young but go you girl. I was 8 weeks along

[Stoner710]

You’ll be fine when you have the kid your motherly instincts will kick in

[Anonymous]

Everyone has to learn parenthood and I'm guessing you have what it needs. Babies are very mechanical in their needs. It gets trickier when they get bigger.

[mommymommymommy]

Could always get a maybe baby, and see if you will be a good parent. Have to get a 92 or above to pass

[annabananna]

I think you’ll end up doing a better job than you’ll give yourself credit for.

[EaterPeter]

Why do they call life changing event a life changing event?

[TrillXHippy]

Who am I to tell you what you will be or what you’re not going to be? I don’t know

[azbaeu]

Your care about it, so of coarse you will

[Tstrbrainer]

What you have to offer is enough

[riverrat3]

A lot can change between now and birth