She showed ALL the signs of liking me BUT...

[soicey321]

she showed every single possible sign so I asked her out in person,it was really just bad timing and what not..so I decided to message her seeing she'd be more comfortable..it came down to if she was trying to "be-friend me", "strong interest", "attracted"...MY QUESTION IS...she hast responded,if she had no interest at all wouldn't she of said she was trying to "be-friend me" to let me off in an easy way instead of not responding AT ALL? Do you ladies think she's extremely nervous of what to say or just doesn't care?

[Scoopie]

From my experience I can tell you that when a women is not interested, she's not going to reply or pick up the phone. She'll rather ignore you than reply.

I don't know how l long you have been waiting now, but if no reply comes in within a week it's pretty safe to assume she's not interested and that she is not going to respond AT ALL. 7 days is a lot, and if she's even slightly interested she could allocate at least one minute for a quick text from the total of 10.080 minutes that go in a week... no matter how busy she may be. And how nervous can one really be about sending one text message?

[soicey321]

well she's been nervous around me the whole time,but fine around every other guy..i told her I wasn't planning to message her at all to begin with the only reason why I gave her a second chance is because I felt she was way to nervous and unexpecting of me to do that..i figured she would at least say she looked at me to be a friend instead of not replying at all to give me that heads up

[Scoopie]

I don't know, but I can tell you I once met a girl that behaved very similarly. I truly thought she was interested based on her behavior you're describing. In the end, she kept ignoring me, even walking away when she would see me.

[BobbyD]

You're 25-29.

Asking a girl out on a date is NOT okay through messaging. The only acceptable thing at that age is phone call if you 100% can't see her or in person.

Don't got her number? Then get her number through Facebook messaging or whatever, then ask her out.

Man up dude, she doesn't want to deal with school boy self-esteem issues at that age.

[soicey321]

no I did it in person at first,she was extremely awkward and didn't give me a straight answer

so I decided to message her gave her the 3options..my question is wouldn't she of just said she was trying to be-friend me instead of not replying at all?

[BobbyD]

I think that she just read you wrong.

You seem like the quiet guy who keeps the processing in his head. So she's probably thinking that you're an intellectual kind of guy but just shy.

Hell you might even be just that. But the way you messaged her was so damn awkward even for me to read. I know when we meet a girl we like we can say or do stupid things but that's border line weird ultimatum sort of deal.

Move on dude.

[Tula1]

I feel like I need you to rephrase your question. Questions I have...what was her response when you asked her in person? What came down to if she was trying to befriend and did someone say strong interest and attracted? And no texting is not more comfortable for anyone even a die hard texter.

Generally speaking silence from a woman is different from silence from a guy. Sometimes a guy needs to go in his cave at times and might be silent during that. A girl is silent either if somehow she doesn't know what to say or if she doesn't have time to say it. When did all this happen?

[soicey321]

i asked her in person,came up to her from behind calling her name..she immediatley became all nervous and froze in position with her shoulders lifting up slightly and she didn't turn around once to see who it was,nor make any eye contact..it was obviously bad timing..and she seems to be a generally shy person,well around just me,im not intimidating or anything just your average person..so I don't get why she won't say she was be-friending me instead of not replying at all..or is she thinking?

[Tula1]

She sounds scared. Of u...or of dating period or dating u...did you do something to scare her? Sometimes a person can like you and all but because of past situations, be too scared to pursue anything. I'd say if she hasn't responded, let it rest. Sometimes, people need time but it doesn't work to be with someone who doesn't comunicate well. She needs to come back with an answer. If she doesn't. You should let it go...If she seemed like she cared b4, then it probably isn't that she doesn't now.

[soicey321]

no I was always extremely nice to her I actually avoided checking her out so she wouldn't feel uncomfortable but she was ALWAYS checking me out,yeah I've already let it go,i've never been in this kind of situation with a girl before so I'm just asking what people think the who ordeal was about..i think I was too straight forward with her,but if she finds some way of responding after that its clearly obvious she has a huge interest in me

[Tula1]

Funny thing is time does tell. The best way to understand a situation is to just talk to the person. In a case like this, when it's not available, you will eventually have a pretty good sense of what happened once removed enough from it. Doesn't save the relationship you hoped for but it saves your future. Some other girl will be blessed by your straightforwardness. It's a great quality in a guy. Don't let people who can't receive it, influence your honesty and intentions.

[Anonymous]

You're question is so confusing to me. Maybe you confused her. It sounds like she doesn't know how to answer you. Just forget it, and don't make it a big to do. Give it a few days and ask her out somewhere. Spend less time worrying where her interest level stands, and more time just creating fun interesting moments and then you won't have to wonder.

[soicey321]

i asked her out once,wasnt gonna give her my time of day a second time but I decided to message her only because I felt she was off-guard..i may of made it too awkward for her to respond..