Did she stop liking me?

[Anonymous]

It was awkward after seeing her after a week but we got back to the way things were before she left. I noticed her looking at me for long periods of time and when I see her looking she quickly turns away. We talked and then hung out and had a good time. Her friend said something about me liking her and she said eww in return. I have known her for a while, last time we hung out, I talked a lot because I was excited and she seemed irritated all of a sudden. She asked me to stop touching her and stuff, I understand women need their space but she said it in a way that I don't respect her. Towards the end of the car ride, she was starting to get back to normal and seemed a lot more interested in my conversation when I was talking about other girls. She was getting back to normal but that one period of time she seemed really irritated towards me and I don't know what to do. If she wants her space, I'll give it to her and if she wants to be respected I can do that too. .During this time, I've had plenty of opportunities to have sex with other girls but have stopped myself because of my feelings for her. This recent bi-polar attitude of hers really turns me off though, I don't know what to do, but when she's in a good mood everything feels amazing. Should I keep pursuing her?

[dario82]

First - stop pursuing her. Now. You are too readily available for this girl and it's obvious you are:

1. Not a challenge for her

2. Too easily available in every way shape and form

Second, she said eww about you liking her. Dude, seriously? She personally dissed you. I know you have feeling for this girl but I don't know how amazing of a time it can be when you touch her and she pushes you away. Find a girl that seems to actually care about you and not be hot and cold like that. You'll be happier in the end.

If you're going to continue on the same road, my suggestion would be to disappear cold turkey. When she starts calling, don't answer her calls. Become a mystery. Make her wonder. She'll start wondering what happened to the guy who was all about her and now doesn't even answer her calls. Call her up and when she asks what you been up to tell her you've been really busy without getting in details.

Stop being a super nice guy. I'm not saying become a dick but learn to be a bit more assertive and less of a pushover. If you have opportunities to go out with other girls then do it.

[Mayalucille]

Even as a girl, I don't understand her behavior. You seem like a good guy and you don't deserve to be treated like someone less than that.

PMSing isn't an excuse because if she truly cared about you, she would never say 'ew'--even to tease. It's obviously something more than just regular mood swings.

It's not healthy for you to be involved with a girl whose emotions are completely uncontrolled; that hints at emotional instability.

Maybe she does like you and the problem she has has got to do with herself. She needs to work on that before going any further in a relationship with you or anyone else.

Or, she could be pulling a cowardly stunt: trying to scare you with crazy emotions and get you to break up with her so she doesn't have to do it--I've seen it happen.

Regardless, you deserve better. Move on.

Hugs,

Maya