His friend said that I'm disgusting?

[Anonymous]

Today after I hung out with my guy friend he asked me if I wanted to meet his friends, he then later went inside his school then came out and he was like "They're acting weird they don't wanna see you anymore" So then later on when I get back home my guy friend calls me and tells me that one of his friends (Who has seen me before) Told everyone that I'm disgusting and he can't believe that my guy friend is wheeling me.

I'm so unbearably upset right now. I never thought of myself as ugly and I just don't understand his friend, he added me on Facebook after he met me and apparently he did not say anything about me until his other friends actually wanted to see me. The last time I was called ugly was from a guy who I rejected when asked out. I have very low self esteem, and lately I've been doing really good until now. I always thought of myself as beautiful. I also feel like this whole thing might mess up my relationship with my guy friend.

How am I supposed to cope with the fact that I am disgusting?

[brittanywonka]

His opinion DOES NOT MATTER. Why? Because no RESPECTABLE human being would go around openly putting down another human being. If he doesn't find you attractive, who cares? This guy is not worth wasting emotional energy over with that kind of behavior.

You ARE beautiful. You know this. Don't lose sight of that because one inconsiderate little boy's UNTRUE and TACTLESS comment. If he doesn't find you attractive, who cares, the earth still spins. But he should've kept his mouth shut and remembered that his opinion is not the general consensus and that you have as much WORTH and VALUE as every other female on this earth.

And please, remind yourself of your own worth and value, because you really are beautiful. Write them down so you can read them when you feel low.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. You don't deserve that. Nobody does, male or female. People can be just genuinely malicious, but at the end of the day, do you really think people like that are worth your time? They're not. It's not healthy for you emotionally or mentally to take their arrogant malevolence to heart.

Keep close to you the people who care for you and know your worth as well as remind you of it. :)

[Asker]

oh thanks. That was sweet. Yeah I'm so over it now. This is so yesterday, like I honestly can't believe I wasted my time crying over this bullsh*t.

[anon1192]

Awww it doesn't sound like he'd mean it then.

Why would he bother to friend you if you are "disgusting"? Maybe he is just trying to get a reaction out of you.

OR maybe he likes you but your guy friend doesn't want you to know the truth because he has a crush on you as well? Why would your guy friend tell you that? Think about it. He doesn't seem like he's being a very good guy friend...

ALSO, keep in mind that sometimes guys are mean and closed up if they feel rejection. Maybe something you did rubbed him the wrong way and this is his way of being defensive?

Whatever the hell they are scheming it's messed up.

I know it is gonna be difficult, but try not to take it seriously.

Honestly, why would a guy randomly call you ugly to your mutual friend?

[Asker]

That's exactly what I thought. Why in the hell would he suddenly confess to my guy friend that I'm disgusting? Especially when my guy friend wanted to meet his other friends... It just seems so odd.

And yeah, it's true. Why would my guy friend tell me that? After the conversation ended, according to him he told his friend off and told him he won't talk to him anymore.

Is it possible that my guy friend is actually the one who thinks I'm disgusting?

[anon1192]

I don't think your guy friend thinks that you are disgusting.,...

I would say he is likely attracted to you and is scared that if you know his friend likes you then you may choose his friend over him.

[Asker]

I don't know he just doesn't seem like the type of guy.

However now you've mentioned it after he told me what his friend said, he said that he's gonna hang up and call his friend "to confront him"then call me back. I don't know why but I think that conversation between his friend never happened, because the time period between calling his friend and calling me back was just too short.

[anon1192]

I would probably ask one of your friends if she/he thinks that your guy friend likes you. If you ask him directly he may be intimidated and may feel awkward since the two of you are friends.

You could ask your guy friend's friend why he would call you ugly to try and confront the issue straight on, but that my get complicated. I guess it depends on how calm it would stay?

[Asker]

We go to different high schools, that's why his friends don't know what I look like.

I wouldn't confront him. What am I supposed to say? I'll just let it go.

Oh well.

[anon1192]

Letting go is probs the best idea.

BUT don't let it get you down.

The friend didn't seem to mean anything at all and both of the guys were being silly.

:)

[Asker]

I won't :)

And thanks for the advice.

[anon1192]

You're welcome.

Anytime.

:)

[dlogan12]

People who go around calling people they just met disgusting don't have an opinion that is worth anything. I know it can be frustrating when you have feelings for someone and their friends seem to be an obstacle. If they only have a relationship to keep their friends happy, you may not want to be wth them. If they want a relationship with you, they care about what you think over their friends. For all you know, one of his friends may want to keep him from being with you so he has a chance. Either way, stay positive. You control your own happiness, and if you don't end up with them, you will find someone better soon. Also, after high school you probably won't see many of the same people. I hope that helps. If not, go watch some Billy Connoly on YouTube. That guy is funny.

[Asker]

It's funny because I've been crying the whole time. I just don't understand how I'm disgusting haha!

I'm tempted to ask my guy friend if he does think I'm disgusting but I already know he's gonna deny it whether it's true or not.

I just got pissed off because apparently the guy tried really hard to keep my friend's other friends from seeing what I look like. (I go to a different school).

Thanks for the advice though. I feel better now.

[Anonymous]

Keep thinking you're beautiful. You most probably are. There could be various reasons why this guy called you disgusting. Maybe he's not attracted to you (that's OK, just because one person doesn't find you attractive it doesn't mean all guys do), maybe he's jealous that his friend has the confidence to go with you and he doesn't. Maybe he is insecure and has issues with girls. Whatever the reason is, it doesn't sound like anything to lose sleep over. Don't sweat it. At least his friend finds something special in you. That's how you cope with it. Know that you're unique and special and also know that not everyone's opinion matters.

[Asker]

He does have issues with girls.

As I have understood, he keeps hitting on girls that don't find him attractive so he gets rejected most of the time. My guy friend on the other hand is quite smooth with the ladies.

That's okay if he doesn't find me attractive I couldn't care less, but saying that I'm disgusting that's just harsh...

[shalehandro]

If your friend has friends like that, why are you hanging out with them? High school is a mind f***

Dont worry about what any body says, they're f*****s who won't get anybody good in life..

Trust me, I was an ass hole and I regret it.

[Asker]

I did think of that. I mean I don't know his friends really but in the end you are who you hang out with...

But he's really nice to me, he texts me everyday. He even told me he only texts me because I'm funny. Perhaps that's my only good feature.

[shalehandro]

Ok well if he likes you that's cool. Don't worry about what other people say because they're just mad.

[Little-Hippie]

Maybe he didn't mean you're unattractive.

Maybe he just think you're a filthy slut. *shrugs*

Maybe you're actually really pretty.