Why am I jealous of my bf's female best friend?

[lizlovelyxo]

My boyfriend and I haven’t been together for very long, just a couple months. I get really jealous of my boyfriend's female best friend. I’m jealous because they are really close and have been friends for years and do random things that you would only do with someone you feel super comfortable with. I just hate when he goes over to her house and is there for hours & they even drink sometimes, which makes me think negatively & just gets my mind going. Before we started dating & were just talking he spent a night at her house drunk & said he slept on the floor, it would really upset me more if he did that now. I don’t think anything happened, but still. He seems to really enjoy spending time with her maybe even alone. I always feel jealous about her and I hate hearing about him hanging out with her, makes me want to just stop talking to him. I dislike it when he gets texts from her & I hate how personal he is with her. I mean I have male friends but I never hang out with them like that and they're all either taken, or not my type, I don't find them at all attractive. But I’m pretty sure my boyfriend has had a crush on her (they cuddled once a long time ago) & she’s attractive. I believe him when he says they're only friends and that she’s a good person & friend, but how’s it OK to do date like things together & doesn’t he think it would make me feel uncomfortable. Maybe I'm just angry right now because I’m thinking the worst, but I feel very hurt every time he talks about her & of course when I talk to him about it I feel like a jealous ***** & he makes me feel really guilty about it like I’m overreacting. How can I not be jealous or make him understand where I'm coming from because I feel awful being like this. I even cry. Trust issues much, I really do want to trust blindly.

[LittleMissGriff]

... If you were my boyfriend, I'd dump your ass right now.

You DON'T trust him. If you did, you wouldn't worry. I don't care how you dress it up, the fact that this bothers you means that you believe, logically or not, that your boyfriend will find a reason to like his best friend more than you. You either need to realize he's with you because he wants to be and build some self confidence, or get out of the relationship, because you're being entirely unfair to him and his friend. In the end, he's going to dump you, because his girlfriend of a couple months is NOTHING compared to a friend for years.

Get over yourself, get a grip, or get out.

[Anonymous]

Be very careful. I was in the exact same situation as you. One night we had an argument and we broke up. I found out days later that after I went home that night, they kissed! She told him she was jealous of our relationship! I was livid! I got back with him, and he just stopped talking to her and cut contact. He thought he loved her years ago but it was just lust. We haven't being right since. Either put your foot down or play him at his own game! And see how he feels

[Anonymous]

Because deep down you know she would be his first choice for a relationship and he probably does want her, he's just in the friend zone.

Trusting blindly is stupidity.keep your eyes open.you have good reason not to trust blindly

[Racez]

It's good that you're so trusting with your boyfriend.

However, you should try to make him understand how you're feeling about things. How it makes you really uncomfortable seeing him always spending time with his best friend. I hope you will talk things peacefully and come to a compromise.

[emzy-89]

You get jealous because you're insecure in your relationship and you don't trust your boyfriend. My advice would be to either talk to him about it, get over your jealousy or to end the relationship; relationships cannot work without trust