Should I invite him to my graduation?

[gialuan]

So I'm graduating with my masters at the end of next month and I've just started seeing someone for the past 3 weeks. He seems like he's really into me and I'm into him as well. Graduations are a big deal for me and this one will be a big moment in my life. My family and 2 best friends will be there. That being said, I don't know if it'd be a good idea to invite him since my family and friends will be there and we haven't been dating for all that long (we're not official and I don't think it'll happen anytime soon). Thoughts?

[Blueplanet]

I think you have already answered your own dilemma and there is wisdom in what you have said... it may not be a good idea and I agree this graduation is for those who have journeyed with you up to this point in your life it is for those who have loved and supported you and they will be there full of pride and wishing you all the best all the hope and opportunity life will bring, it's about their love for you, and this day is your gift to them for you to graduate means their support and love has born fruit in your life and so I feel the boyfriend would distract from that.

I know it would be great to have him there and if you really want that then talk to your parents and friends before hand and ask them how they feel about it... they also know it's your big day and also want you to be happy... con grads

[aMuse]

Sure, invite him. If he goes to school with you he can easily attend with a few friends who might also know people who are graduating. He doesn't have to sit with your parents and get to know the family, he can just be there somewhere in the stands. Thousands of people attend graduations, just talk to him about it...

[CatholicVirginia]

Well, is your concern that he doesn't know your family the only reason you're hesitant to invite him?

Does that outweigh how much you want him to be there (especially if he and you last?)

In all fairness, he's an adult and so are your family and friends. They can all get along easily; it would dissipate to something immature (teasing, too much questioning, awkward situations).

Major question: Do you want him there?

[gialuan]

I generally like to keep my dating life from my family until I'm official with the guy. The reason is because my mom would tell everyone she knows that I have a boyfriend when that's not the case. And any family involvement will make me more attached to the guy, which I'm cautious about in case we don't work out.

Having him there would be nice, but I'm not dying to have him there. We've been dating for less than a month. But if we were to last, then him being there would be a nice memory.

[CatholicVirginia]

I'm like you. Usually I like my family not to know until I am certain about the guy. But for me, I think this would be a special case and I'd have him there. Is it for you?

[gialuan]

I'm not sure if I'd want him to meet my family and friends so early on. I was thinking we can meet up for a few minutes after the ceremony before I meet up with my family.

I think he senses that I'm not comfortable with introducing him to my family just yet because he dropped me off once and asked where I wanted to be let off. I told him just before my mom's store since it's all big windows looking out onto the street (I live above it). I'll talk to him about it in May. It's still too early

[CatholicVirginia]

Okay. Best of luck.

[gialuan]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Why don't you ask him and tell him your parents and best friends are coming. See if he's comfortable with that.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

My wife had her 10 year HS reunion shortly after we started dating. We weren't "official", either. I get it's a little different, but I was upset she didn't invite me.

[gialuan]

How should I approach it then? Should I mention it to him and leave the decision up to him? We both go to the same school, so he knows when and where it'll be.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I think that's the best course of action.

[Anonymous]

You should really invite him.

Who knows where it will lead you.

[Anonymous]

That is probably not a good idea since family will be there... It might put too much pressure on him.

[gialuan]

Yeah, I agree it might be a lot of pressure on him.

[Anonymous]

You pushing it. To some extent a man has to want you more than you want him

[gialuan]

LOL wow, I have never seen so many negative votes on one response before. But honey, you don't know the situation ;)

[Opinion Owner]

Im not you. So why would I know the situation? And if you were so sure then why even ask the question to begin with. You can't even get him to call you his girlfriend. I got 99 problems but a man is not one honey :)

[Opinion Owner]

If you are wondering if I care about the down votes I don't. And if you are looking for sympathy I don't sympathize cause you a simple bitch.

[Opinion Owner]

Stuck up bitch you just came on here to brag about a masters degree to disguise it has a relationship problem. You have to be in a relationship to have relationship problems. Go kill yourself please. :)