My engaged best friend kissed me?

[Anonymous]

I've been best friends with this guy since starting college, which is about 2 years. We've always had a friend relationship, although when I first met him he flirted with me a lot. He met his current fiance about one 1/2 years ago and they are planning their wedding. I'm also best friends with his fiance and she asked me to be a bridesmaid, which I was super excited about. Yesterday at the end of a hike I took with my guy best friend he kissed me and I freaked out. I have a serious boyfriend and I was horrified that he would kiss me when that could end up ruining his friendship and engagement. What should I do? I don't know if I should tell his fiance or what...it's put me in a terrible situation :/

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+1 y

Thank you to everyone so far. This whole thing took me by shock so I'm going to think it over tonight and do something about it tomorrow.

[bijinbijinbijin]

so how exactly did you freak out? Did you yell at him? slap him? or did you really just keep quiet untill you wrote everyone on gaskg?

You should have punched the guy right then and there but if you didn't then you should have told your boyfriend what happend so that he can go punch the guy for you. Friends or not, tell your boyfriend. your boyfriend should be someone who is understanding and who you can easily talk to anyway. He should be the first person you tell about this, not us and not the girl fiance.

Also what happens between him and his girl is none of your business. You can support their wedding all you want but don't put yourself in their drama by feeling the way that you feel right now.

Not only was it disrespectful to his girl but it was disrespectful to you and if you actually let this guy disrespect you like that by putting you in an uncomfortable position, then you are really lame for that. Clear yourself by making sure this guy knows where you stand and by telling your boyfriend and then move on with your life.

[smalls1995]

I think first of all even though it might be weird for you, you should talk to him. You guys are best friends. You can talk to him about anything! It honestly seems like he felt like it was last chance to see if anything could happen with you before he became a married man. If that's the case, then he shouldn't be with a girl if he's always going to ask what if about another girl. That's just not healthy. Not saying that's exactly what's happening, but my point is I would see what's going on with him before talking to her. If that was the case and he's not going to tell her, then it's probably best to tell her. If he's just having wedding jitters and you both don't feel anything really serious about it, then you can let it go. However if it's something you're really going to always feel weird about then one of you should talk to her and before the wedding! Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Do not tell his fiancée... for now try to brush it off. If he comes on to you again make it clear that that is not acceptable behavior.

He might be thinking that this is his last chance to fool around or something before getting married, and maybe since you two are so close he thought it wouldn't be a big deal, I don't know... either way, I hope he doesn't try that with you again. You're both in relationships and he needs to respect that.

[Opinion Owner]

The only reason I would maybe suggest you tell his fianc?e is in the event that you notice a lot more behavior like this from him, whether he's making moves on you or other women.

[QueenBeatris]

he was your friend first so you need to tell him any type of behavior like this is unacceptable and you will have to say something to his fianc?e if it happens again, Hike w your boyfriend or with your friend when there are other people around, no more alone time

[martyfellow]

I don't think you have to 'do' anything. He decided, gee, soon I'll be married, this is my last chance to kiss my 'best friend' girl...so I'll go for it!

Likely, he'll never do that again..I wouldn't get upset unless he starts making this a pattern!

[Anonymous]

It's only a kiss don't worry about it you are friends it's OK to kiss and even have sex.

[bijinbijinbijin]

lol

[Opinion Owner]

so your with me on this on then bijinbijinbijin ;p

[DodgersGM]

What a dumb ass he is.

I can tell you this...if he's willing to put a move on you (someone who is also best friends with his fiance), then I'd be shocked if he wasn't trying things with other women.

Honesty is the best policy, and I'd absolutely tell her if I was you. Remember, he's the one that you put you in this position, and NONE of it is your fault.

[red324]

talk to your best friend, not your female friend. If she finds out even from you she's going to be mad at both you and him. She'll blame you for breaking up their engagement just for technically being there. I know it's not your fault but that's what will run through her mind. Ask your friend what happened. He'll probably say he didn't know what he was thinking or something and just leave it at that.

[emptypackofsmokes]

Yikes. He might be freaking out about the wedding. Keep this to yourself unless there are further advances. No more "hikes" either :)

[yengesi]

He's probably just feeling his oats and thinking about the "what if's" before he gets hitched. Some friends would give him a secret wedding gift so he can get it out of his system.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I think you need to tell her. Was it a KISS or just a kiss on the cheek or a peck on the lips?

[Anonymous]

Terrible indeed, but she's your friend. How would you feel if it were the other way around and she'd let you marry the guy completely clueless?

[archn]

It depends on the type of kiss.

[Deviouscourage]

He's not very intelligent.