Is it weird that this guy invited me to Xmas eve dinner?

[Anonymous]

So I met a guy from an online dating site. We were talking on the phone and texting for a few weeks. We finally met up on Friday night but it wasn't really planned. I was out with a friend celebrating my college graduation. He was there with some friends. He was drink too but anyway he end up at his place and had sex and hung out all day. Then he text me yesterday asking when he can see me again and suggest I spend Xmas eve with him. I said yes sure but then later on he said "dinner with the fam!" And I was taken back a little. I'm not one to cancel plans so I told him whatever he wanted was good with me. He's 40 years old and I know his family only consists of his mom and grandpa so I assume they are very old. Besides the point tho. Don't you think this is strange or am I over thinking it . ? Maybe it's because of his age? Older generation think this is normal? I'm only 27 and although I've had guys invite me to family dinners It was always a friendly thing. This is more . Thoughts?

[The-Dude-Next-Door]

Perhaps timing is why he invited you. He might believe that meeting his family after a few days is too fast, but since Christmas was here, he thought he'd invite you, because dinner is where he'd be anyway.

So it's just a coincidence that you met so close to Christmas. And he wanted you to be at the same place he was on Christmas eve. And since He was at a party with his family, he just wanted you to be with him - regardless is he was with his family or not.

And say some time later, if you were to ask him "where were you Christmas eve?" He doesn't want to say "I was eating dinner with the fam;" And leave you out as if he didn't want you to be there. He'd rather include you than exclude you.

[Asker]

Thank you for your response! Now that a few days have past I would say that I agree with you!

[deWho]

Maybe he is assuming you will say no. Maybe he assume age IS nothing to you. I know I caught myself saying a joke about a TV show from the 80s and I had to explain it... so the age thing goes both ways. but to invite you to a possible 3 generation dinner...whew... that's either love or possessive. Be careful.

[Asker]

Age is nothing to me. He didn't assume I would say no since I said yes before he told me about the family thing. If he told me that before asking I would have said no. I agree though...I think he is possessive

[deWho]

Whew...big step to admit that. Be careful but smile.

[Anonymous]

It's either not something that he thinks is a big deal, or he's moving a bit too fast. If you're starting to feel that it's the latter don't be afraid to back off a little if you're not comfortable with the pace he's trying to take things.

[Asker]

Good point... I'm hoping he just sees it as a very casual thing. I like him but don't want it so serious too quickly.

[RideMyNorthFace]

Stop hoping and simply ask.

[neoagent1]

I agree with what has been said so far by multple answerers. He's 40, you're 27 and really beautiful. You may want to ask his intentions for your relationship. I'm sure he was more than happy to have you over for hanging out and sex but I'm sure if he's single he wants more with you. You seem like a good catch :)

[martyfellow]

it sounds like he isn't just looking for a girl to have fun with. A guy this age is probably looking for someone to settle down with.

There's no reason not to go to meet his family, but be careful of leading him on if you'aren't ready to settle down yourself! he may take your agreement to meet his family as your consent to moving in together, for example.

[Phoenix98]

Who knows I find things get blown out of proportion way to easily by over thinking or worrying I would just go and figure things out afterward. Besides being there might give you perspective on his motives or intentions.

[KingJR]

what the hell...second time seeing you and diner with the family already?! Red flag!

[Asker]

can you tell me why though?

[KingJR]

cuz he gets overly attached, overly fast maybe? I can't tell you a definite answer because I'm not him!

[Asker]

I understand..I may agree! Thank you for your input.

[Anonymous]

Wow... you are very cute looking! Lucky guy.

I would say your relationship is going hyper fast... with someone you barely know.

[Asker]

:) thanks... yes It is going a bit fast haha

[Anonymous]

Isn't he a bit old for you?

[Asker]

You think so? I'm 27 ... I feel like once your older than 25 age is usually just a number. Do you have some opinion or view of why it would be bad? He is the oldest guy I've ever dated.

[Opinion Owner]

Because I think 13 years is a large difference at that age. He is middle-aged, and you are still pretty young...

also why would you sleep with him so easy

[Asker]

It is not something I've ever done before. We had talked a lot over the phone and text for about a month before. I realize that shouldn't mean much but as I said I was celebrating my graduation and things got out of hand.. for the record- I regret it. because I would prefer to get to know a guy without my judgements being cloudy from the emotional side that comes with sex.

[Opinion Owner]

why not abstain?

[Anonymous]

No that's not weird. Maybe he likes you.